It causes stinging microscopic tears. This is a new relationship. We've only been together 5 times, but this has happened twice and it ruined the night both times because he got so defensive, like I was pointing out that he's a bad lover. How can I tell him so that he doesn't feel like a fool and doesn't forget?
2007-01-08 16:51:58 · 16 answers · asked by itry007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You take the lead. Try and be sexy or you start the foreplay. Kiss a little more and don't rush. Tell him to let you please him. Don't do anything you don't want though. Just find out his hot spot or whatever turns him on and it should also turn you on that he's turned on. If you like to be on top then that helps because you can then start when you get ready.
2007-01-08 16:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Sweetness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 21:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. They say if you really want to hurt a guy's feelings, make him feel like he's a bad lover.
It's typical of guy's to force it too soon though. They just can't help themselves.
You're just going to have to be a bit more of a dominatrix in bed I'm afraid. I hate feeling like I don't have control.
Maybe you could try lubricant.
If he's still an insensitive prick, you may have to find a different lover. Sorry, can't really help you.
2007-01-08 16:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you get some lubricant or tell him that your not ready yet and that it hurts you when he forces it. sounds like he only wants you for sex and your being used next time he does it just say ooowwwww! your hurting me he should feel like a fool and isnt a good lover if he cant make you wet he isnt doing his job.
2007-01-08 17:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you mess with a boy not a man, better luck next time, before he hits the wrong opening, now there's an eye opener....
2007-01-08 16:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by bigbro3006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm . . . maybe you should ask him to manually stimulate you for a good while before you have sex. Show him what to look for as a sign that you're ready, so he can check before he starts. He's got to learn if you show him what to look for and praise him when he does things right. Good night!
2007-01-08 17:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he wants someone to screw with, he can take his manly pieces elsewhere, but if he's looking for a real relationship with someone who won't give up on him just because of his sex drive, he might want to try a little harder at being good to you.
2007-01-08 16:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by shynotscared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're not ready for it and that you want to get to know him better. See where the relationship goes...now if he gets mad and breaks up, don't feel bad. Then you will know that he was using you. n
2007-01-08 17:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I may have answered a question like this except vise versa. You may need to get a lubricant.
2007-01-08 16:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you are ready for this.......then make sure you use a Lube or something......it will reduce friction and stop the painful tearing
2007-01-08 16:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by mafronk21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋