What should I do???

Question

I'm falling head over heels for this girl and I can't stop it from happening, she likes me and shows it...only problem is she's in that phase of dating and feeling the water on what's out there and isn't sure yet what she want's, I'm not being cocky or anything but I truly understand her and every aspect and know that I'm better than the idiots that she ends up dating, so I'm wondering, should I wait it out while still doing some dating of my own in hopes that oneday she'll realize that I'm the one that won't hurt her? or just act like I never knew her and go on...course that would be extremely hard knowing she likes me and me being a finger nail from being able to say dare I say it "I love you" and meaning it, thanks for any advice

Answer 1

Jump at the chance to ask her out. n

Answer 2

Well, the first thing I want to say is "never let a good thing go." If you really, truely feel "love" for her rather than "admiration" or "lust", then for God's sake, don't let her go. You'll never get a second chance if you don't.

The second thing I'll say is "You won't achieve your goals if you are afraid to take chances." You never know, things might work out for you. And if it doesn't, it is not the end of the world.

I say all this because what I'm going to tell you is true.

I met my wife while on a summer canoe trip in Wisconsin. We met one night and hit it off great. Nothing happened, but we had a great time talking and getting to know each other. It was a great night because we started off as building a "friendship" rather than just jumping in the sack. Well, the night ended by me going back to my tent with nothing but a "good night".

Then next morning, my group was packing up to go home. My friends gave me the exact same advise I'm giving to you. So, I gathered up the courage and went back to her camp site where I got her phone number.

Through time, we got to know each other better and she moved to my city where we were married a year later. It's been four years now and we have one child and have a great marriage.

So, if I was scared or timid, I would have never taken the chance of returning to her camp site. If I was shot down, big deal, right? I wouldn't ever see her again. I know that's not your case, here, but it's the aspect. I took that chance and great things tend to happen.

I say Go For It. Take a chance. If it works out great, than you just found someone. If it doesn't work out, then at least you now know. Don't make yourself crazy by saying "What if...".

Good luck

Answer 3

Hey man, let nature take its course. You must be able to understand that you cannot force a girl or anyone to do anything. Keep the hopes alive...be nice.....let her do the dating and maybe she will eventually date you. I think uttering I love you--will kill your chances. Young people are always discovering new things about life--hopefully she will find out how some guys are not a good choice and that she can get away and move on---you continue to be a nice guy and if it doesn't work out, you will still have a nice guy reputation that another young lady will appreciate. keep in mind the word love is thrown around way too loosely--used out of context--you don't seem old enough to know what the word REALLY means----using it does scare people away---keep cool brother---stay nice and hopefully it will all work out. Don't stand around staring at her while she is living her life---go out and live yours---you're only young once---have fun.

Answer 4

If I was this lucky girl that had such a great guy head over heels for her, I would probably go for you in a heartbeat. But since you say she's testing the waters, that poses a conundrum.

If she likes you, by all means, ask her out! She'll figure out that you are a great guy and she will continue to date you. If she doesn't, she has a messed-up idea of men that you shouldn't condone.

don't ever, ever let your dreams slip away. Good luck!

Answer 5

WEll, you can't love her if you haven't been dating or only dating her casually. What you are experiencing is infatuation, and that's fine. Love comes from a very deep bond with another person that takes time to grow, and it takes much time spent together intimately, in and out of bed, for it to blossom. What you are describing is not love.

You should continue to see her if you like her. Sounds like she is casual at this point, so you should be too. Don't put all your eggs in this basket. You can see other women or not, but just understand that it doesn't sound like she wants to be exclusive right now. If you can't accept that, don't see her. Good luck.

Answer 6

you will regret for the rest of your life if your never say anything to her. Honestly, your sound young and I bet she is too so don't give your hopes up. It will probably not end the way you think so in the end, what do your have to loose? Tell her, take her, and and take all the life experience you can learn from her. She won't be the one u marry but have fun and live anyway.

Answer 7

Maybe you should leave this one alone.The girl has problems with men cheating on her because she might be the type of girl that is always feeling the water to see who's out there. Although it may be true that you won't hurt her, but she will be the woman to break you and make you like the rest of our male species - DOGS. Sad but true. From 1 one woman man to another.

Answer 8

it sound like you are a good guy, and maybe she does not see
that right n0w, but you should not stop living your life in the
chance that she will see you for what it is. she may never feel
as you do. time to move on. sometime you just need to
let the birds fly away and if it meant to be with you it will
come back. but time to shine yourself. good luck.

Answer 9

Keep dating, openly. Don't pressure her into serious dating, and feel the waters out yourself.

Answer 10

DO what eer you like but she still may never pick u. BUT send her some roses any way.