The only thing is my boyfriend doesnt think we need to start buying things just yet, Im just trying to get things bought early so we'll be prepared. Im worried I'll go ahead and buy everything with my money and he wont pitch in until the more expensivethings are bought. How do I bring this up to him without making him feel like I'm nagging?
2007-01-08 16:30:02 · 14 answers · asked by Jane 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know I should wait until the shower, but Im just excited :) My boyfriend also freaked out because there was an activity mat I wanted to put on the registery for fifty dollars. I was planning on putting several big things on the list. I'm having two showers (his family and mine). I dont know what is too expensive to put on the registry.
2007-01-08 16:36:49 · update #1
I see a lot of people are telling you not to buy stuff. When I found out I was pregnant, I started buying stuff right away (but then I didn't have a baby shower either).
Basically if you start now, you can get an idea of what you like and what you need (two totally different things :). Ask people who have children what they liked to have most for their baby. That will help you get an idea of what to put on your registry. I did a lot of my baby clothes shopping at places like Goodwill and at garage sales. You can get barely worn clothes for around a $1.00 to $2.00, you just have to be patient and go about once a week. Another great place to find baby items at a fraction of the cost is ebay. I did and still do a lot of shopping on ebay (you can get clothes, coupons, formula, baby items, anything you can think of), but like I said you have to be patient.
Also I think it is a great idea to stock up on items you will need regularly like diapers (all sizes), formula, stain stick, bottles, nipples, laundry detergent, etc. That way after the baby gets here you don't always need to run out and get items and you have spread the cost out over a period of time.
As for your boyfriend, you need to talk to him since he should help you with the cost of the stuff. It is his child too and whether he likes it or not he has to help buy stuff. However, my husband didn't actually go out and buy items for me. He would give me opinions of what he liked or thought the baby would like and I did all the shopping (I love to shop so I really didn't mind). He thought I was nuts at first to buy all the stuff we have, but he admitted after the baby got here it was nice to be totally prepared.
Good luck and have fun shopping!
2007-01-08 17:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is too expensive to put on the registry. I put the crib I wanted on mine, about $400. Just be sure you have a good range of prices/items so that people can spend what they want, or can afford and not feel bad.
As for buying things, go ahead and buy a few fun items. Start stocking up on diapers/wipes. Leave the big stuff for after the shower though, you never know what you might get, or not get. I had a swing on my registry and didn't get it so I had to go out after the shower and buy it.
2007-01-09 08:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's sooo exciting to buy things for baby! Maybe just buy a few things you can find cheap on clearance??? You will most likely get everything you need for your showers (especially if this is a first grandbaby lol) I know from experience you get impatient waiting but it really is a blast to at least go scan everything you want.
As for the price of things on the registry, it's best to have a range, from cheap dollar items to big expensive Items because sometimes people or families like to go together on gifts.
2007-01-09 00:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by destified 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go through a registry website like Felicite.com and have him help decide what you both should put on the registry. He will probably want to help as soon as you ask him for a list of the emails of his family so that you can send them a link to the registry. Hopefully he will be ashamed to let his family see the major expenses he is slacking on and then you can put cute fun stuff on the registry instead!-)
ETA: Put everything on the registry! Or, make a separate "wish list" registry. I was surprised at the things people bought us off our registry. Organic cotton baby clothes, good cloth diaper covers, really nice wooden toys etc...
2007-01-09 00:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I put a stroller cost over $100 in the registry. Some of my friends collect money together and buy the stroller for me. I'd think it's a great idea because then you get the expensive stuffs covered.
Plus, they don't have to buy it if they don't want to.
I'd say wait for the shower (and possibly for garage sales season). I understand your excitement, but now it will just result in impulse buying.
2007-01-09 00:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about a saving plan of you put so much away each pay and then once you have a bit away take him with you to a sale end of season is always good to pick the bigger things up at cheaper price but still brand new, he might get more inters ted if he is involved from eh first purchase.
i took my hubbie to buy Bunnie rug and i let him pick 5 all by him self let me say i didn't really like them but when ever he was looking after the baby he always had him dressed and snuggled in the things he had brought which was nice to see
2007-01-09 00:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by pen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's as natural for him to be worried about money, as it is for you to want to go out and buy stuff. At this point, buying stuff is just indulging yourself, so buy only what YOU can afford. Spend your time shopping instead, to find out the things you really will need and all the best deals you can get on them. Then you can keep him updated on how you're finding bargains and make him feel better about you spending money on baby stuff, and ask his opinion on different things.
2007-01-09 00:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is perfectly normal!!! i started buying things when i got into the 2nd trimester. so dont worry, it is never ''too early'' to buy things when pregnant!! i know the father thought i was too early, but as soon as i found out if it was a boy and girl he went crazy and came home with stuff all the time. so don't worry!
2007-01-09 00:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very exciting.
Buy Dr. Sears and Dr. Brazelton on babies/parenting.
Read everything at http://www.naturalchild.org and contact la leche league.org to start learning about breastfeeding.
Buy a sling for carrying your babe, forget about the crib - a barbaric invention that is completely contrary to the biologically evolved needs of human infants, buy a good car seat if you have a car.
You should buy as little as possible so that you can get your baby what he/she needs most: 3 - 5 years of being raised at home with mommy with mommy's milk on demand and holding whenever she wants it in the first year. 50 years of research has demonstrated what someone observing primates at the zoo can tell you - humans evolved to need their mothers for optimal growth. More than 10 hours a week separation from mother in the first years of life have grave and consistently demonstrated effects on intellect, social skills, health, and emotional well being.
2007-01-09 00:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I would wait until around the middle of your pregnancy to start buying things. It's amazing how much stuff gets given to you when you're pregnant. I had almost everything I needed given to me for both of my pregnancies. People are very generous.
2007-01-09 00:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋