I've never planned a wedding before....?

Question

I'm planning my wedding but what kind of things do I need to plan? I know I need a location, colours, a dress, but what else?
Would it be insulting to plan a wedding party without choosing any family, besides my parents giving away we've went with friends, but my bf's sister keeps talking about being in the wedding party even though we told her were going with friends, we both have lots of brothers and sisters and we don't want to pick and choose we decided to ask friends......what do you think?

Answer 1

Definitely book a photographer quickly...they're the main must have of the wedding, besides the reception hall/food. Also, get a florist fast as well, the good one's go quickly.

Don't forget about the little things - aisle runner, garter, something old,new,borrowed, blue, figure out bands/dj's and what song lists you'd like for them to play. Decide the order in which you'd like the 'greeting party' for the reception...just you and the groom with parents, or everyone from the wedding, etc.

If you're not wanting family to stand for you in the wedding, and fear them getting offended, perhaps you can get them to do things for the wedding that are just as important. Choose the boyfriend's sister to be an unofficial wedding coordinator - help you with last minute things, pin flowers on the groomsmen, tell the photographer who is whom, help cut and serve the cake, (if you're not having a caterer do so), and many other little details. Maybe a family member can read a passage aloud, or have someone besides (or along with0 the best man/maid of honor make a toast. Perhaps put her in charge of your showers.

Bottom line - it's your wedding, you do what YOU want to do. If you want friends only, your family and his will have to respect that. However, be forewarned that if you choose this route and don't care if family members feelings are hurt, it may continue to haunt you years later.

Quick example: I had family and friends stand (6 bridesmaids in all and 6 groomsmen). I purposely left out a family member because although I did like her, she was on the younger side and would have to have her parents bring her to the showers, rehersals, etc, and I didn't want to deal with them. I signed my own 'death warrant' as not only was I not asked to have anything to do in her wedding years later, we were shunned from any family activity they hosted, and are still to this day left out of the circle at family events. Not that everyone is like this, but be sure not to burn any bridges in the process of getting what you want for your wedding.

Best of luck and congrats to the both of you!

Answer 2

I would get a three ring binder from walmart and a pack of clear dirop in plastic sleeves.
Print out your to do checklist and put that in the binder and then make up a budget. Stop talking to family and friends about wedding planning for now till you have your plan. As you find neat ideas, tear out magazine pages, pick up business cards, and save receipts, momentos etc.. just put them in the binder and everything will be all in one place.
You can get ahead of yourself with the planning. First thing is $$$ to budget and that will really help you answer the questions that follow. Congratulations!!!


About going with friends over family to stand up with you, remember you can not please everybody and the point is to make a meaningful day for you as a couple. It is not insulting to leave the family out, but shows a lot about the couples maturity. You have to pick and choose, that is what adults do. It is practice for the picking and choosing you will do as a married couple.

Friends will come and go, but your sil will be your kids auntie and in your face every holiday. The wedding planning is not all about you & how you envision your special day, it is the first day of your future together.
I would add family members for harmony in the future.

Answer 3

That u are totally wrong! Friends come and go and your
family will always be there for u! Are they paying for any part
of the wedding? If they are u need to somehow incorporate
them into the wedding. Even if its at the reception, my saying
a poem or a toast or something about u while u were growing
up. trust me if u don't u will be sorry!
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on what lays ahead. Its a very useful web site, Good Luck!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

After picking the date you need to move fast to ensure that the places and services that you want are still available. Many services such as photography are booked up to 3 yrs in advance depending on the studio and where you live. After booking the hall, church, photographer,caterer and DJ then you can focus on the things that are less time sensitive such as dress, bridal party, invitations, save the date cards, wedding accessories etc.
Don't be too upset about the people who want to be in your wedding, it just means that they love you.However, it is your wedding and you should make it perfect for you. People will understand. As a planner I always ask my clients how do you envision your special day. Also remember to make lists, keep all your receipts, store all your contracts and make sure you stick to your budget.

Answer 6

If you want free wedding planning worksheets, you can find them at www.abcustom.com under planning tools.

You can choose whomever you want to be in your wedding party, friends or family. Just consider who you ask very carefully, because when you look back on your wedding pictures in 25 years you'll want to be able to count those same people as your friends. This is why I chose family instead of friends, because I will always know who those people are and in 25 years they will still be standing up for my marriage.

Answer 7

There are lots of thing to plan. I suggest going to the book store and buying a book on wedding planning. It really helped me.

Answer 8

as far as attendants go - the choice is entirely up to you & your partner but is simplifies things a lot if you keep it to 1 or 2 each;
other can be involved in a variety of ways.
OR you could have NO attendants at all - just witnesses i.e:- someone nominated to step forward & sign the papers for you.
CONGRATULATIONS & good luck with everything