My son's father and I split up a year into our son's life. We had split custody for close to a year, the boy spent half his time with dad and half with me. But then his dad developed a drug problem and was forced to move far away. I want to know if my son understands what's happening and if this could account for his recent foul behavior. Dad still calls from time to time, but that seems to make it worse... What do you think?
2007-01-08 15:41:42 · 6 answers · asked by Beth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he is under 5 years, the effect this has on him is largely going to be determined by you and your behavior. Your reaction and emotions can make this negative event, into a smaller passage in his childhood. It is easy to blame bad behaviors on an absent parent.
I would try to get him a support system like Rainbows to give him a peer group to share with and also provide you with some real answers. Good Luck to you
2007-01-08 16:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can have an effect if he has really been spending that much time with his dad. My son went through a similar withdrawal when he was about 18 mths. His dad had got out of jail for a year(drugs) and moved in with us after. Then he got right back on them and I was forced to send him packing. My son was searching the house and crying and vomiting and was depressed for a couple days. Eventually he got used to his dad not being present but he has not forgotten him. He has seen and talked to him since and enjoys it but he is not lovesick anymore. Your son will get through this time just be patient and love him. And let him form his own opinions of his dad and don't talk bad about him in front of him. Good luck.
2007-01-09 00:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will effect him. Try to find him a good solid role model. Like your dad or brother. If they don't work try someone with Big Brothers. Boy need positive male influences in their lives. If you cant do any of the above then you will need to be both. Eventually he will understand. Just be there for him and make sure he understands it is not his fault.
2007-01-08 23:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter was 2 years old when her dad left us..i know how it feels like...there is a big impact to the kids...not only pshycologically.. but more on socially ..kids has to go to school,socialize and mingle with families friends school mates.. he/she would see the comparison to other kids..and the question will arise.. such as:why my classmate dad with him or her.as you go on living you will realize...how hard it is for our kids..but life must go on..and we have to move on..we have kids to raise and they depend on us...goodluck to both of you
2007-01-10 21:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by janie_728 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow um... my mom pretty much neglected me my hole life and I'm still scared from it so i guess if shed have left i would probably hate her for it sorry if i didn't help at all.
2007-01-08 23:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by brittany ambrozaitis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my two kids' father left before they were three yrs old...i did not want him coming and going it upset them...i terminated his right....my kids are great...........really, I raised them myself and they are great students, non drinkers non druggers, athletes college bound...no regrets
2007-01-10 14:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋