my gal loves me alot.. i have spoken to her abt this problem and she is telling me i m only getting jealous.. my gal has lot of friends who are guys and she speaks to most of them which i dont mind.. but recently this guy has become her friend recently and she says to me that she likes chatting with him... before this guy she only used to like chatting to me.. nw she says im boring.. i dnt knw wat to do.. m feeling scared and confused.. pls help me
2007-01-08 15:37:52 · 23 answers · asked by dx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for your concern people.. but i love her alot n don wana loose her... i try my best to do things differently but somhow its not working nwadays.. only yest night i msgd her n ther was no reply from her.. n wen i asked her otday morning.. she said that she was chatting with that guy n that m bugging her... m really loosing control of myself.
2007-01-08 15:57:31 · update #1
She says you are boring? I'd lose her, frankly. That's a horrible thing to say to your partner. You deserve better than her.
I'm not discounting your feelings about the jealousy, but I don't know your history of jealousy and relationships, so it's hard to say if this is a deeper issue of yours or not. But all I picked up on is that she told you that you were "boring."
I'd leave. Find a woman who loves talking to you, doesn't think you are boring, and will care enough about you not to insult you like that. They are out there.
2007-01-08 15:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry this is happening to you. If shes says your boring, you need to do something different; I dont know what, but something needs to change. Try and go back to the way you were when you two 1st met. Obviously, something was "right" then or you 2 wouldnt have gotten together.
Sit and talk with her- ask her whats wrong, ask why/how youre boring...if you dont, you will lose the relationship. Communication and Trust are the base of ANY and ALL relationships. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 15:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend.. this is normal.. but don't let it get to you. If she can talk to a guy, you too can and should talk to other girls. See how she feels.. Learn how to become more interesting. And don't be needy and don't hang around with her too much (that's probably why she thinks you're boring). Learn to be more independent and find things that you like to do. She's just your girlfriend - not your wife. So, relax and have fun. Go out and make other female friends. You'll feel much better and she'll be more interested in you.
2007-01-08 15:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she says your boring why is she dating you it sounds like she is not ready to be in a one on one relationship. you should tell her that plenty of girls find you interesting and do some chatting of your own usually people dont know how it feels until they experiance it they will say go ahead it wont bother me but then watch it bother them.really she doesnt appreciate you she may love you but it seems she wants her cake and eat it too she wants alot and you should not act insecure be strong not needy trust me do some chatting with other gals and less with her and watch her tune change!
2007-01-08 15:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by nurse_barbiedoll05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me help you out my friend, Why she likes chatting with him is cause he know how to hold a convo. Ok this is what you do, Peak her interests ; what she likes to do, what she enjoys, etc. Sometimes you have to think in a woman's point of view ( I'm not Gay! just listen!) Women loves it when you listen to them. Pay attention to every detail in what they say instead of just saying uh huh! Be Interested, if not your going to lose her quick to that guy! I know this I been married for 7 yrs. Give it a try dude!
2007-01-08 15:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by good4sumpthin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man let me tell ya. You just need to tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her it hurts you to know that she thinks your boring and she finds interest in this other guy. Tell her does it bother her that you are jealous i mean it's just a sign that i care for you. Ask her if she would rather you not care at all and show no signs of caring. Just let her know exactly how you feel about the situation.
2007-01-08 15:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by cbowles05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the rights to get jealous here. When a girl tell you you're boring and she starts chatting with some guy, i would talk to her in private regarding your relationship with her, and ask her on how does she feel on the other guy she was talking to.,
2007-01-08 15:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Teem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well its wrong to tell her who she can & can't talk to.
If she says you are now boring, then there may be a sign that ya'll have a problem. Talk to her about it, but dont tell her she cant talk to other guys. That will only make her want to do it more, which could really lead to some problems.
2007-01-08 15:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend can not live on bread alone, nor can she only have you to talk to. she needs to have others to talk to. just like you do, you are not tied at the hip, give her some space and time, respect her and you will receive the same. keep the insecurity in the picture, and the picture will be of you standing there alone wondering what the heck happened.
2007-01-08 15:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for ya dude but based on my experience in the past chances are this girl is about to leave your for this guy or cheat on you with this guy one, you have the right to feel insecure, its probably just your gut feeling somethings wrong. better deal with it now before you have to find out the hard way
2007-01-08 15:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋