oh well i love this man so much and we are both atrracted to each other.......he ask me to make love with him and i said no because i'm not yet ready and i still want to continue my study.......well he's going to graduate this coming school ends and was going to abroad.....i love him and he wants that i will give myself to him to show my love for him......is that rigth or wrong?
2007-01-08 15:35:04 · 23 answers · asked by gracielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep your goodies for someone that will stay around after the bounty has been had...he's playing you for a fare-well poking.
2007-01-08 15:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by silverback487 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care about you. He doesn't respect you. If you said no and he truly cares about you, he would not continue to pressure you. Clearly communicate that if he truly loves you, he will wait. If he isn't willing to wait, let him know that you will see it clearly as an indication that he doesn't love you. His feelings for you are only feelings back up by words without the strength to put it into action. Do you really want a guy that can't put you first? If he can't do it now, image later on when life's a little difficult.
2007-01-08 23:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Zippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thast wrong, dont do it because hes leavin 2 go abroad, this big thing happens once in ur life, u really need to think about it lon and hard,, if u do sleep with him, hes goin abroad anyways so hes bound to find someone else, he likes the idea of u been a virgin and wants to b ur 1st one 2 sleep with u.... u dont have to show him that u love him by sleeping wit him.... all man say that to make U feel bad... u turn the tables on him and say to him if U wanna show ur love for me why dont we wait untill im ready... and see what he says then go from there...good luck!!!!
2007-01-08 23:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving yourself to him is not a good way to show that you love him. Furthermore, he'll be leaving the country soon. What if he meets someone else when he is overseas?
Can he guarantee that he'll marry you in future? Does not those that marry also divorce??
Last but not least, you are not ready for it yet. So why give yourself to him??
Wait till you are both ready to settle down then give yourself to him. If he truly loves you, he won't mind waiting till then.
2007-01-08 23:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by vach1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you back, he won't pressue you into doing anything you're not comfortable doing, and you've made it very clear that you're not comfortable. Wait and see what direction the relationship takes by the end of the school term, and see if you're ready then. Don't make any big decisions, though. You may come to regret them later.
2007-01-08 23:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by xxhalloqueenxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything that you don't think is right. A guy was born wanting sex and that giving yourself to him to prove that you love him is the oldest trick in the book. If this guy really loves you, he will respect your wishes and wait until you are ready for that big step.
2007-01-08 23:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Like you said the guy is going abroad. You don't even know if he's still gonna talk to you when he leaves. If he really loves you, he would understand that you are not ready.
2007-01-08 23:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Teem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get trapped. You will do it only when you are ready.
What is the difference between love and sex? A quick summary.
Love
•Love is a feeling (an emotion).
•There is no exact "right" definition of love for everybody.
•Love involves feelings of romance, attraction.
Sex
•Sex is an event or act (physical).
•There are different kinds of sex, but all kinds of sex have some things in common.
•Sex may or may not involve penetration.
•Sex can happen between a male and a female, between two females, between two males, between more than two people, or by one's self (masturbation).
Tips
You don't have to use sex to show him that you love him, you just need to use your heart to show him. Having sex doesn't mean you love him. If he leaves you because of that, get rid of him, he doesn't love you. If he loves you, he will respect you & wait till you are ready.
2007-01-08 23:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not expressed between the sheets it is expressed in commitment and intimacy - if he is pushing for the sheets then sorry love - he is not "the one". You should both feel there is no better way to express what you are feeling and if you aren't ready - this isn't the time to "fake it". Good Luck on your next romance.
2007-01-08 23:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only sleep with him if you feel ready to do so. Abstaining from sex until you finish your studies is a good idea that will help ensure a child will not get in the way.
2007-01-08 23:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely WRONG! Do not EVER give yourself to prove that you love someone. If he deserves your love, then he will wait. I'm sorry to say this about the guy you are currently in love with, but this is the hard fact: he is manipulating your love to get into your pants.
Rather than you proving your love for him, HE should be the one to prove his love for YOU by not asking you to sacrifice your body.
2007-01-08 23:44:07 · answer #11 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋