Help... Please?

Question

i feel lost, i've been in a break-up i cant sleep, eat and think well. i was really hurt. how can i overcome this. i need people to comfort me. i'm so lost right now. i want to die. i love this person so much, his memory kills me

Answer 1

Dear Friend
We have all been where you are right now, Hon. And each and every one of us sympathizes...I think it's easier to feel physical pain than emotional pain.
But know this...we all go through this at some point in our lives. You are NOT ALONE. Time is the great cure-all...I know it seems now that you will never forget him, but you will, eventually, and when you meet someone else and come to care for him, then all this pain will be erased. In the meantime, hang out with sympathetic friends. (Believe it or not, your parents feel badly for you too.) Do you like to read? A good novel is a great way to lose yourself for a while. Watch your favorite TV shows. Try your hand at creating a painting. Do anything in which you'll become totally absorbed, even for a while. You may even want to do something like volunteer at a homeless shelter, or animal shelter; there's nothing that makes one feel better than assisting those less fortunate than oneself.
And you need to pamper yourself right now. Be nice to yourself! Get a manicure, maybe even a new hairstyle. You need to do things that will make you feel good about yourself.
Sweetie, none of us want you to die. I know you hurt, but please look to the future, and all the good things that will happen for you and all the good you will do. People do care about you, or else we wouldn't be answering you. Best of luck to you Hon, and hang in there...it will get better, I promise.

Answer 2

Break-ups can be really hard for sure! You feel like a part of yourself is missing, a damn important part! One thing that really helps me is to travel, to go where you haven't gone before, meeting new people, seeing new places. Get yourself away from the situation for some emotional breathing space. If you can't get away another nice thing to help end things is to do it 'officially'. This may sound silly, but make some sort of 'break-up ritual' to officially close the relationship. This can be anything you can think of like writing him a goodbye letter then burning it, or taking any mementos from the relationship and finding them a better resting place other than your house. Whatever it is, it should be specific to your situation. When I got divorced I went to Brazil to build a statue and put my wedding ring inside of it ( this is a bit extreme, but it just worked out that way and it helped)

IF you're really still strongly connected to them emotionally and spiritually, this might take a little more work. I felt still connected to my ex by some unseen force, again slightly silly but that's what it felt like. It took some prayers and visualization to finally break the link between us.

Don't worry, there is light at the end of this dark tunnel, have patience :)

Answer 3

Hug. I'm sorry you're hurt. Hang out with friends and do things that you once love doing. Do some volunteer work. If that doesn't help, get a pet. Pet will help you ease your pain too. It takes time to get over it. Don't be discourage. XOXOXO.

Answer 4

well sweety, nothin is easy.
even love hurts sometimes.
try to do some of things u like doin, do some activites that can keep ur mind busy, and time will help u overcome this feelin.
peace

Answer 5

Just calm down and think of nice things that you enjoy (not him) and relax try to sleep, try to find some one else there has to be some boy out there that you are into. just try to get over it, life goes on and yours should to. Its all going to be alright you'll find someone else i promise.