My boyfriend's sister passed away on Saturday after being in a bad car crash. He's really upset about this, and he is really sad. He's been crying a lot, and I don't know what to say to him to make him feel better? I don't want to say "I hope you feel better" or something because that sounds really stupid. He is really upset, and I just don't know what to do to help him feel better? I always thought I could handle something like this, but I'm really confused about what I should say and what I shouldn't since it's his family?
And all you man haters can bugger off and don't even think about telling me to leave him and that I shouldn't get involved. I see that "Just leave" crap all the time. I want real answers to help, not an exit strategy.
2007-01-08 14:57:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing you can do but be there for him...Sometimes not saying anything is a good thing...When my dad was killed in an accident, i swear i wanted to smack everyone who said I'm sorry. I wanted to be left alone to grieve my way. Just be there and what ever you do don't bring it up, if he does just listen...
2007-01-08 15:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything that you can say to make him feel better. Just be there whenever he wants to talk to someone. Be a shoulder that he can lean on at the moment. Maybe you can ask him if he wants to talk walks with you, or just go out and sit and talk about anything. Just listen to him - that is all you can do. But certainly, do not leave him in this time of need. This is when he needs you the most perhaps and your love will help him get through the loss. All the best!
2007-01-08 15:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, in situations like this there is nothing you can say to make him feel better. But, you can be there for him. Let him know you are always available if he needs a shoulder to cry on, or to talk about his sister's death. Don't push him to a talk, he will when his ready. Offer his family any thing that you help do for them.
2007-01-08 15:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be there for him love him and try to understand him right now is a very difficult time and he needs to more or less just listen to him....He probley needs you more than he ever has before and just tell him what you feel like he needs to hear and don't not say it cause you think it sounds stupid. It might just be the things that help him are the things your not saying...Good luck
2007-01-08 15:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him and tell him that y r there when he want to talk or need a hug.from a true friend !!!!! The only thing I can tell u thing will get better just be there for the up and down days and believe me they r coming so Take a good stand and be Strong!!!!
2007-01-08 15:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be there for him, be patient. This could take some time. Your a good g/f to want to help him.. Just seeing your face, maybe a little rub on his back sometime, will make a difference. Fix him something to eat, sit with him. If he is not hungry, tell him when he gets ready to eat, you will fix it. See if there is anything he would like for you to do for him. Patience is what is important.
2007-01-08 15:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just have to be there for him.Make sure he takes his meals properly and not forget them.You can't ask him to stop crying, coz he has to let go of all the sorrow and burden.. Just hold his hands tight when you are with him. Sometimes our unspoken gestures turn out to be the best condolences.
2007-01-08 15:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, right now, he doesn't really need to "feel better", but rather needs to grieve and deal with the loss.
Be there for him, show him you love him, support him how you can (and how he will let you.)
But really, he deserves to be sad for a bit. Make him dinner, etc, make it so he doesn't have to worry about stuff.
2007-01-08 15:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by leahlovesspam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is just from what i know it mite not help u at all and it mite but if u want to help him just be there for him and listen to him and try to get him to talk about it thats all i can say i hope u guys get though this
2007-01-08 15:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer the guy free sex. Unless he is gay, this approach will work 100% of the time.
2007-01-08 15:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋