I don´t know what to do???

Question

I´m 18... I have been through a lot, even more last year...I can´t seen anything good in life anymore...I was depressed before but not this badly.. I can´t talk to my parents (long story).... a therapist seems too cold for me.. i don´t know what to do anymore... i just want to go away!

Answer 1

Barbie , calm down let me help OK...please take a deep breath and hold count to 10 and release......Barbie you are 18 yrs old you are feeling so sad and i feel it through your question .....I want you to go to a professional who deals with depression.....stop going to this therapist there is no contact if they are cold towards.....call your family doctor he will refer you to a psychiatrist go and he will help you please do this my friend you are having problems with parents right now let it go and take care of YOU.....Please have faith in youself and be strong I know you can do this ....bless you and take charge of your LIFE .....luv kara

Answer 2

Barbie, this is only a thought. A few years ago my wife ran off with my best buddy. We have 3 great kids, 2 teenagers and one little bugger. I discovered an affair. After two weeks of trying to convince her to do the right thing and stay home with me and the kids, she told me no way. I went into a Celtic Rage and kicked her *** out the door and called ******** and told him to come and get her. He arrived and I attempted to kick his butt. I punched him a few times and smashed the mirrors off both sides of his truck. Long story short... I went to jail that night and then had to hire a lawyer to handle 3 counts of battery. Until then I thought the only kind of battery was in my wife's dildo. Anyhow, as a part of my punishment/sentence... I was required to go to anger management. I hadn't really been all that angry before... that's not the point. The point is, I could not afford some big shot, coke bottle glasses, egghead, psyco shrink so I heard about a more affordible option. It was counciling through a Christian Church. The gal only charged me 10 bucks a go. We talked anger management issues for the first 6 sessions and I was done... but I enjoyed it so darn much I stayed on for another 12 weeks. We talked about all sorts of things. Today, I'm as happy as a bloodhound with 3 balls. You never know what is around the next corner. Keep your chin up and your eyes open. You are only 18. Honey, the fun has not even come close to beginning. Hang on, don't do drugs. Don't get too blasted on the beer and be patient. Good luck.

Answer 3

I know what your going through I'm 19... I went through the same thing when I got out of school. Therapy doesn't seem like a warm place to go, and you don't trust your parents enough to help you with this.
To feel good about yourself and great about persons around you, you must let yourself find the reason why you feel this way. Many people tried to find happiness by ignoring the pain and moving on, but that will hurt them only more.
Find people you can trust... friends, co-workers, a family-member perhaps, tell them what you are going through. But sometimes it's hard to talk to someone... it's part of life. But be strong there are plenty of people that are going through the same thing.
Find something you like to do, activities, clubs, games, work... keep yourself busy. When the problem returns you should be relax, look at the problem, and you will see its no big deal. You must be strong and you will continue...

Answer 4

Sometimes life really hands you some bad cards to deal with. It's not uncommon to want to run away from your problems but part of being an adult is facing your problems head on and work them out.
But it doesn't hurt to ask for help either. Sometimes you need medication just to help you keep your head on straight so you can deal with those problems and so they don't get you too far depressed.
Make an appt with your doctor and ask for help.
If a therapist seems too cold, try another one. If you go to church ask the minister or priest for help. Check into support groups in your area.

Sometimes we think our lives are really bad and then we meet someone else who has it worse. Hang in there and know that there are other people that go through some of the same things you have to deal with.

Answer 5

It's difficult to give advice, when I don't know what exactly your situation is, but I know that things can be rough at your age - they can even feel overwhelming. When I was your age, I didn't think that I could talk to my parents either. I didn't think they would "get it." but now that I have 2 young children of my own, I can safely say that no matter what they did I would love them unconditionally and I would hate for them to feel that they couldn't come and talk things over with me. Give them another chance to prove themselves to you - actually give them many chances... they are human and bound to make mistakes, as none of us are perfect.

Therapy also seemed like it wouldn't be the answer for me at that age, but these people are trained to help people with a wide range of issues and might have some really good suggestions for you. You have to try to go in with an open mind and heart.

Your comment that you "just want to go away" really causes me concern - I hope that you mean you just need a change of scenery for a while and need to take a break for a bit. I'm not a therapist and I'm at a loss of what to tell you on this, if you are considering a more permanent route, but I can only say that I hope you will just try to believe that life is a journey of many different "stages" - you don't want to miss out on what lies ahead of you. Try to tough it out & make the most of a bad situation. Think positive and have faith that everything will work itself out. God only gives us as much as we can handle. I really believe that - and you don't need to be 100% religion oriented to believe that too. I truly believe that a positive outlook on life helps us through all of the bumps and potholes we encounter on the road.

One last thought - perhaps you need to incorporate a change in your life, be it a new pet or volunteering at a nursing home... helping others with needs always seems to take a person's mind off from their own problems - not to mention you could meet some neat people along the way and have the internal satisfaction of knowing that you helped make another person's life just a little bit more enjoyable by sharing your time with them!

Good luck and stay strong! "Anything is possible if you have faith"

Answer 6

so, go away, move and start your life fresh. sometimes that is the only solution. my daughter was 17 with a new baby, in an abusive forced relationship with the older man who had made her pregnant, was unable to hold a job because he harassed her at work, wasn't able to even go to the movies without him showing up and screaming at her. She thought life was over. Then as a last resort, my older daughter said come stay with me for a few weeks.We liked what we saw and we moved across the country where he couldn't easily get to her. Now, 5 1/2 years later, she is happily married with 2 beautiful children and a husband that thinks she is the best thing that ever happened to him. She has a good job and can honestly say she would probably be dead ifshe had stayed.
Sometimes theonly thing to do is exactly what you feel. save your money, and just go

Answer 7

I have been struggling with depression for a number of years. Most people who know me have no idea. I actually needed medication and I've been fine, however, I'm not sayiong that that's right for everyone. I actually found a great counsellor who I give my success to. I did all the work but she certainly helped. Just to let you know that you are definitely not alone. Now I am a counsellor at a shelter. You have to take control of your life and realize that there's nothing wrong with asking for help. Don't feel ashamed for the way that you're feeling you jst need to talk to somebody about it. Good luck, stay strong and always know that you are not alone.

Answer 8

First of all. You are not alone. I'm 18 and I've been a negative person since I started thinking. I would say negative things while talking to my friends without noticing I said it. Likewise, I have nonsupporting parents. My father never talks and my mother kills my spirit when she talks. So I know how you feel. Nonetheless, I've been trying to walk out of this for a long time.

I suggest just going out with a huge bunch of friends and just try and lose yourself in the moment with your friends. I find the desire to bond with friends really helps to escape from the negativities that we see in life everyday.

Answer 9

Hey! Im 45 years old and I have been thru ALOT of things in my life. Somethings are never pleasent, but you do have to go on. See if maybe there is a crisis line in your area to call. Most of them are 24 hours a day or night. Just DONT GIVE UP! There is always something to look forward to in life. It might not seem like it right now, but things WILL get better, I promise

Answer 10

I'm so sorry Sweetie. Is there no one else close to you that you can talk to (friend, relative, school counselor)? If not, maybe you can speak to your doctor (it will be confidential). There are also Depression support groups (do a search online). If you need someone to talk to, let me know and I'll message you. I've dealt with Depression and a lot of other things before. God Bless