Manners - Holding doors open, stepping out of someones way, being aware of others? What has happened!??

Question

I am constantly noticing and getting annoyed with the state of society today. Just simple things that many folks I come across are either just oblivious or just don't care.
I always hold a door open for the person behind me, 6-7 times out of 10, the person will simply just walk right through it without a word. Like I am a doorman? Not taking the door from me. Other instances when you have a shopping cart in a store and someone has their cart blocking the entire aisle and not letting anyone through. I will stand there for a few minutes thinking they will see me, and they just continue without a clue or just continue ignoring me. Am I in the minority? Even if the aisle was empty and the store was empty I would automatically push my cart as far off to the side as possible to make sure anyone could get through if needed.
Do others notice these things? Sometimes when I am out I feel like I am the only one who holds doors open for people, says excuse me etc.

Answer 1

That is simply the world we live in, sadly. Humans are becoming increasingly egocentric.

For example, just a few minutes ago, I walked a long way out of my way to to open a store door for a mother with a stroller. She walked in without even looking at me! As if I was a doorman that had wandered away from his post.

That kind of rudeness is why fewer people bother to go out of their way to be helpful. No appreciation. Rather, a feeling of entitlement.

Answer 2

Society today tends to forget the manners I was taught growing up. Like you, I hold the door open for people, smile when eye contact is made, help my elders load groceries or reach something high, say please and thank you, and try not to interrupt among others. I do not like it when others constantly ignore all of this but it is what I was taught and I am responsible for my own actions and not anyone elses. I teach my nephew whenever we are out together and try to pass on what I think is important to my younger friends. I have a friend whose sister is 8 and the other day we were in a store and an elderly man was making trips out to the car holding several small but bulky boxes. I told her to go over and open the door each time the man walked out. I had asked the gentleman if he wanted some help but he said no. Afterwards, when we were in the car, she told me the man had came up to her and thanked her for being so nice. We talked about how she can do things like that in the future to help people. It made me feel like I had accomplished something. Keep doing what you're doing. I think it's great!

Answer 3

That is because society actually taught us that it doesn't get anyone far being nice... although I don't agree. I have, at times, accidentally taken up space in the grocery isle, not paying any attention. Then I will notice as soon as I see someone coming down the isle. I will apologize immediately when that happens. I too hold the door open out of common courtesy just to either have people step on my feet, push me or even go as far as give me a dirty look as if I expect them to tip me. People just are too expectant these days. What can you do? Not much really.

Answer 4

I agree with you. I don't find it hard to be kind to people. I am polite when I am driving to a point, if the driver isn't paying attention I will stop being nice and not let them in. But I do agree that people are kind. I have a son and when we go to the mall I have to used the handicap doors because no one will open the door for me or if they do they only open one of two doors for me. I think the best thing to do is continue to do your good deeds and be kind to people, say excuse me and thank you. Maybe the children will learn from you.

Answer 5

try being a mom with a stroller. You'll quickly see how rude people are. No one is willing to hold or even just pop the door open for me to catch it. My toddler has learned to kick doors open so I can try to struggle to get the stroller in.

Also, I get looks from people, especially in stores, just for having the nerve to bring a child into a store. I should say my son is a really good little kid!

Answer 6

I feel exactly the way you do.Where did all these rude people come from?I was'nt raised that way...it's mind boggling!Still even when I'm tempted to be rude in public,I'm not.I hope I can set an example for SOMEONE out there and if I never do I feel I've taken the high road and feel better about myself at the end of the day.I wish there were more people like us.

Answer 7

Oh I've noticed. I'm the type of person that always says 'Thank you' or Excuse me' but usually there is no response from the other person. It's just the kind of world we have made for ourselves and it will get worse before it gets better, if it ever does.

Answer 8

Oh you're not alone. I am always disgusted by people's lack of manners. Especially women with big, fat baby strollers blocking the entire aisle and reading a label, not looking to see if anyone needs to get past. I could just ram them with my shopping cart. Like the whole world has to stop because you and your precious crotch droppings are in the aisle?

When someone doesn't say thank you I say (very loudly) YOU'RE WELCOME! Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Just today an older woman (who you would think would have manners) asked me for directions. Then she just left. So I yelled YOU'RE WELCOME, YOU'RE WELCOME until she turned and said thank you.

If it's so hard having children then don't have them. It's not my fault you bred. It's not my fault you are having a tough time. Perhaps children should be kept at home until they're old enough to be walk and be polite (if ever.)

Answer 9

I feel your pain. I do the same and only thing I can think of is that too many people in this world weren't taught manners or are too self absorbed. But hope springs eternal...I keep doing it to at least teach my friends' children manners by example.

Answer 10

I continually say thanks. Before I received married, if I used to be on a date and a man opened a automobile door, I'd continually supply him a kiss at the cheek that allows you to sitting within the automobile. I love guys with manners. Sometimes, guys do not reply to thanks, and that may be worrying to me due to the fact that its well mannered to recognize a individual after they speak. I have heard different females say this too. They say "thanks" and the fellow slightly appears at them, says not anything and walks off as even though not anything occurred. In any case, do not allow it get to you due to the fact that there are individuals in the market who do recognize it, even though they aren't vocal approximately it.