moms, do you sometimes feel guilty for wanting ME time?

Answer 1

All the time, and Hubby doesn't always make getting out of the house alone any easier. And when I do get out alone to do something for myself, I will find myself rushing to get back home as soon as I am done as if I'm late for something.

Answer 2

No I never did, I worked fulltime outside the home and when I was home I was a hands on mom. Twice a month I took "Me" time and it was well earned. I wasn't the only parent my child had and her father was capeable of keeping an eye on her while I took a break. If he wasn't around I would call one of the neighbors because we all had kids around the same ages, we all worked and we all needed a break a couple times a month. So we would trade off watching one another's kids. There is nothing to feel guilty about. If mom doesn't get her rest the entire family suffers...

Answer 3

Never! I have 5 kids and I need my ME time. I look forward to it and it makes me less cranky when I take care of the kids. Every Mom should have me time and not feel guilty about it. Even if it is only for 45 minutes a day until you get used to it and then maybe you can make it an hour. You need your time also!

Answer 4

I'm a stay at home mom, and still feel guilty about wanting some ME time every once in a while.

I think it's just a mom thing.

Answer 5

Yes and no. I am a stay at home mom and I give anything for a moment to be alone. It's ok to do that though. We are still people too! Parenting is difficult. Try to plan for a night out or an afternoon even, once a week. It doesn't always work out that way, but you need it. Even if you use the time to do something like grocery shop or go get diapers. I take every moment I can get! I love my kids dearly, but I need to keep my head level to take care of them.

Answer 6

Yea, I think all moms do, but you have to remember that you're a real person, not just a mom, and everyone needs time for themselves. Just think of this when you feel guilty, if you are stressed out, you may take it out on your kids and that's a whole lot worse then having some "me" time. As long as you take care of them and spend quality time with them, then you have no reason to feel bad.

Answer 7

I used to feel real guilty, mostly because my husband would make me feel real guilty about it, still does. What I've learned is that if I don't have that me time then everyone else suffers for it along with me. I get cranky and not nice to be around. So what's better, taking the small amount of time for myself or making everybody miserable?

Answer 8

I definitely want *me* time occasionally, but I don't feel guilty about it! I love my family and take good care of them. My boyfriend has *me* time, my daughter has *me* time (most of her time is me time!), and I deserve it too. And I get it - daddy will get up early with our daughter sometimes so I can sleep in, or my mom will watch her so I can go shopping or rest. I spend most of my day taking care of other people at home and as a doula, and I need alone time to be good at taking care of people.

When I first had my baby and I was exhausted and stressed out, my boyfriend said to me "It's important to be a good mommy, but also important to be a responsible owner of a human body by not putting it through unecessary stress." I guess that's why I love him so much!

Don't feel guilty about taking time for yourself! It's irresponsible!

Answer 9

Yes but if I dont I will feel guilty for that later too... you need ME time just to stay saine sometimes... and most of the time I feel better about it

Answer 10

YES!!!! I have an 11 month old son and I love him to death but sometimes I just have to have me time or me and husband time and we send him to his grandma's. Then a litlle later on I will get to thinking that I feel bad he's gone and not spending time with me and I get to feeling bad like I am trying to pawn him off on someone else. But we all do need ME time so don't feel bad girl and I am going to try and do the same, lol.