adult step family donot get along with stepmother?

Question

step daughter hates step mother so much she does her best to turn the whole family against her and her father

Answer 1

Go read some of the posts by scareyrose. Now that's one evil little girl who really hates her step mom. Then there's the ones by smithcrusher. She is a hated step mom.

I am one of the hated step moms too. I have no idea why kids act the way that they do. My steps are in their 20's and they do whatever they can to make my husband leave me. They've even insisted that he get a DNA test to prove that our daughter is really his child.

I wish you luck.

Answer 2

I am an adult step child who doesn't like the step mom and here is my advice. Tell the daughter to show some class and show some respect to her elders. I was taught that you don't have to like a person but you always treat them with decency. I have explained to my dad that I do not like his wife but it's his life and I will get along with her. The daughter doesn't have to hang out with the woman. I go visit my dad when I know step mom is working or I tolerate her if she's there.

I think you should have a serious talk with the husband to let the daughter know life too short to be so bitter and that her attitude isn't appropriate. Also tell her she will meet many people in life that she won't particularly like so think of this as a learning experience for those occasions.

Answer 3

I have a very strong opinion on this topic because I am (although not legally) an adult stepdaughter with a widowed dad (dad is in a long-term relationship but not married).

Everyone involved in this discussion- especially Cyndidrum....do you REALLY think that the situation is one-sided and that the stepparent cannot possibly be part of the problem? As a mature adult, how could you think that the stepchild must always be 100% in the wrong? Like it or not, there are ALWAYS two sides to every story. Have you even tried to talk to your stepchild to consider where they may be coming from? Have you considered that the childhood/teen/young adult years are hard enough without adding a stepparent to the equation? I am NOT saying that the stepchild is always completely innocent, but I am saying that stepparent/stepchild relationships demand an awful lot of work, and it is not automatically up to the stepchild to do all of that work.

Step families arise out of 2 basic situations- divorce/estrangement or death, and each situation brings with it unique challenges. Do not expect a stepchild with a deceased parent to have the same issues or solutions as one with a divorced parent.

Answer 4

Sever ties with this daughter.

Answer 5

hey, i've been there and done that. not a pretty picture i assure you. want to know what i learned?
NOT TO GIVE A FLYING F*CK!!
just get on with your life that is all you can do. this happened to me 20 years ago and i still have people throwing it in my face at times.
PEOPLE--PEOPLE-PEOPLE----WHEN WILL THEY GROW UP?