should i let him or no? i dont know what to do!
2007-01-08 14:22:18 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Interesting question.
First : I don't think that where you live it is allowed to get married at such a young age. In muslim countries Men can marry young girls but the opposite don't exist I think.
Second : is the girl friend OK with this or not? Or is it only your son who wants this ?
Third : at 11 you want to experience things and often act without thinking.
Fourth : as he still lives under your roofs ( I think ), you are the one who decide for him. I mean you make the big choices for his life because he is not aware of all the things in life yet. He has to learn themm as he grow.
Fifth : isn't he a bit young to have a girl friend ?
Sixth : does he understand the meaning of marriage ? Marriage means to lives with someone, share happy and bad moments, being able to give her and the future familly what they need. Can he do it now? I don't think so
So you have to talk with him that it is not possible because of many reasons. He doesn't have money to support her, where will they live ? Would her parents agree for this marriage ( I doubt it ).
As a parent, you have to show him the good path to follow. He is still too young to think about this idea. For the moment he loves her but they are still teenagers and what if after they finigh growing their body will change ( body, face, apparence, mentality ). Ask him what he will do if once this phase is finished he sees that she is not for him?
So of course you should not let him do. Talk with him and eventually with her and her parents too.
2007-01-08 14:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by kl55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think the child's (with down syndrome) parents would like your son staying in their house with his girlfriend while they are away? Probably not. You should ask to speak with them over the phone, to avoid trespassing charges! Sounds like your son's girlfriend was looking for an excuse to have him go over there and stay. If you don't want your son to be a daddy at 17, you probably shouldn't let him go. It's sad that they don't get to see eachother often, but school is more important... even if it's an excused absence. As for your concerns about his talk of marrying this girl, I think you need to sit your son down and talk to him about what his plans are for after he graduates high school. You should stress how important it is to get some kind of degree or trade school training. Tell him that it's very difficult to be married and go to college at the same time and, although it may be difficult to wait, he should really wait until he's got a good career started (career does not equal part-time retail job, something that actually has a future!) . Finally, I understand why you want your son to move with you, but when he hits 18 you need to cut the strings. He'll be an adult and he needs to learn to make decisions for himself... and if those decisions turn out to be mistakes, he'll learn from them. Good luck!
2016-05-22 21:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see hum that is a big Negative. I have an 11 year old boy and that is not even a subject in my house. I am a single mom and he has and never will talk like that. He knows that he can not do anything of that nature until he is older. Besides have you consider what the young girls parents would say or think?
2007-01-08 14:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should say " son i know you really love her but your only 11 years old you will have much more time for that sort of thing " [Plus i dont even think that is legal well at least not where i live in California ]
2007-01-08 14:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Iloveyou<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He is 11, way too young to know who he wants to marry. I don't even think it is legal to marry at 11. Are you seriously debating this?
2007-01-08 14:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Acting and Dancing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him marry his girlfriend. He clearly needs to get out from under your wayward influence if you can not decide if you should let an 11 year old get married.
2007-01-08 14:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by harrisnish 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
11 year old is WAY too young to get married. tell him no he has to wait until hes out of school and has a good paying job then he could get married but for now he and his gf has to take things slow and easy for now.
2007-01-08 17:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hells no maybe when at the age of 18 or older and ur 11 year old son doesnt know love yet let him choose when he is 18 or older
2007-01-08 14:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by hockey pro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your son is CRAZY... He won't be able to get a marriage license. When I got married, you had to attend a marriage classes for 4 hours. I think you have to be 16, and have parental permission first. Unless he forges a letter, with your signature. It has happened, a friend did it. :(
How does his girl-friend's parents feel?
Best of Luck to You
Peanut
2007-01-08 14:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! no way you should let him hes still a child and will have more years of love to go through, heck my mom wouldnt even let me date when i was 11!
2007-01-08 17:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋