bipolar boyfrend?

Question

litte backgorund- my boyfirend is 22. sever bipolar manic 2. on meds.
weve been dating a year.. for a while he would go anything 4 me... want to talk all the time...we were amazing close, the cant live w/o each other type of thing.

things got bad, bad anger episodes, him throwing things. never hit me.. he slit his wrist in front of me during a fight, he was i nthe hospital before that 4 taking a bunch of tylenol pm-he will punch or cut himself in anger

that was a couple months ago... the past few months things are going downhill. we fight oncstantly.
we just got into a huge 2 weeks fight in whicn he says i am too stressful and i give him a hard time and i want hi mto chase me all the time,im too "insecure". I told him i feel unloved he never wantd to talk on the phone naymore, hes too preoccupied with like writing a "novel' things changed.. one second he says this is how it is and that our relationship is over, the next he says he devasted and will do anuything for me??!?!?!?

Answer 1

you should go to his next doctors visit with him and talk to his doctor about this, it could be he needs his medicine dose changed or even a different kind. The ups and downs he is having are all part of being bi-polar although, they can control it better with meds. So, go to his doctor visit with him, if he doesnt have one soon you and him schedule one. Talk to his doctor about what he is doing and hopefully he will have some suggestions or change his meds.

Answer 2

Hi, I had a brother that was like the guy you are describing and I have some things that might help.
First of all this is not your fault.
A manic depressive can not take responsibility for their own actions. It is part of the disease. They will do whatever they can so they can live, survive. The main objective of a manic depressive is to make sure they appear fine to everyone. Episodes of "I love you" to "i hate you" come from a mind that at any moment either feels manipulated or the need to manipulate.
There is no other spot. It is very difficult to be with a person like that unless you know who you are and can realize the other person has a very destructive problem.
my brother had a lady friend for years and he would put her down one minute and if she dared gain strength to stand up to him, he would either get worse or calm back down. they are masters at manipulation.
it is such a sad disease because they can not see they are wrong in any way. they feel justified to say and do whatever they want and that others just need to get on board.
They also sound "normal" because what they do say will contain a little bit of the truth so you will see they are being logical, rational.
What that does is distorts the truth. They will start out with part of a truth and then figure out how to work that truth to their advantage start a line of delusional thinking. so the truth is buried in an avalanche of lies and distortions.
I am so sorry you are having to experience this but some good news is, that you can recognize you are not responsible for his actions and you can know you are not the crazy one!
A person will always try to pull you into their world and all that does is make two people crazy.
Ultimately, he is still responsible for his own actions. I can't say that enough to you. No matter what he says to you, his actions speak louder than words and in my experience with my brother, he lived his entire life in denial but also in self preservation until cancer took his life. If you continue to stay with him you must learn that anything and everything he says will have the agenda of protecting his own self.
so you will have to make decisions that are best for you.
Take care, you are not alone.

Answer 3

Well i understand what you are going through. I am bipolar maniac 3. and it is very hard to deal with. but i also have had it for years and years.. so I am able to control it. So i know what you are going through. And he has no right disrespecting you you like, no matter how mad he gets, and if he claims you are ruining his life, then leave him and tell him he can have it his way. But tell him not to come crawling back like nothing ever happened. Even though some one has a maniac episode, they know more then well what they are doing and saying, they more say and do things with out thinking. And just because he has not hit you now, there is a very high chance with his anger problems, that he will wind up hitting you sooner or later, and he will say something like, I am sorry, I was just upset, blah blah balh, get your self out, before it is too late. because it usually means that it always goes down hill, because a bipolar maniacs body, will sooner or later get used to the meds that they are on, and the body will be immune and it will not help the sideeffects of the biplar and the moods. Did he stop taking his meds??

Answer 4

If your relationship is like riding a roller coaster that is out of control, maybe it's time to get off this ride!

You stated that he was in the process of writing a novel. Well, maybe that's how he gets his thoughts in order and needs that time. But if you're playing the "I'm lonely" card, of course he's gonna get pissed off. Anyone would.

Find something to do, other than be with him ALL the time. Go get a part-time job, spend some time with your gal pals, volunteer at a local hospital. Do something other than getting under his skin.

Answer 5

He's just confused like 95% of the world. But he may fit into an even smaller category of confusion, like in the 1 to 3% range (whatever bipolar amounts to). Hopefully he's getting counseling as well as being consistant with his meds. Please always be compassionate and never use the bipolar condition to hurt him. If you start feeling vengeful that way, you need to end it. This is serious.

Answer 6

i don't believe of you've bipolar ailment as you it doesn't sound like you've experienced a manic episode (it truly is no longer fairly a lot being extreme). i might want to communicate on your GP although about your suicidal options. next time you're feeling so low you're heavily questioning about suicide make an appointment consisting of your GP and clarify to them the way you're feeling. also once you're nonetheless in college it may help to communicate on your practise instructor/counsellor as they're there that can help you you out and would have the time to communicate issues by way of with you.

Answer 7

look maybe this is your chance to open your eyes to whats going on around you. what does your boyfriends condition say about your relationship? what does it say about how your feeling? are you stressed about it? if you are and you cant handle it then you should break up with him. tell him that your tired of his anger problems and him trying to hurt himself in front of you. that it hurts you and scares you. now just because you might stop being his girlfriend if you choose to be that doesnt mean that you have to stop caring about him and being there for him. be there for him like friends. but let him down easily. you dont want to upset him. so put him under the watchful care of someone that you know. like take a friend with you if your going to break it off and then just let it out warmly and calmly. dont yell at him because then he will get mad. then just hug him for a really long time and tell him that you want you and him to be friends and that you will always be there for him no matter what. that you guyys can still hang out. be there for him and be warm with him and gentle. good luck.

Answer 8

This is really harsh but, why are you still even considering dating him? He's got problems even on medication. You can't have kids with him, someone like that shouldn't be having children, this stuff can be hereditary. It's time to let go, someone like him is in no position to be a relationship. He needs professional help.

Answer 9

i dated a guy with severe bipolar disorder,its really hard to understand where theyre coming from, if you really love him, try to read up on the subject, maybe go to therapy with him, i couldnt make it work with my boyfriend, but if you really want to, and love him, you can make it work.

Answer 10

Get him some stronger meds.