jan 07/07
jst like t know WHY cause there not thiking of the child at all.
yur in your 40's good grif, kid 16 you'll having the old age pension or dead ,or what ever.
i am 54 and no way i do not want ang kids at my age.
i was in my 20's when my girls
i don't feel for the mothers, it is por babies.
2007-01-08 14:09:52 · 13 answers · asked by rosalove222 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
if you're 54, you need to learn how to spell......
2007-01-08 14:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
My mom had me when she was 35, I see nothing wrong with it. I was the baby of 2 other siblings though and so that was the cut off for her. I'm glad my mom had me when she did they just moved into a bigger house and my dad got a better job and I got to be spoiled.
But it's not just today that older women are having babies, back in the 1800 and the early 1900's women were having multiple children up to 12 and wayy still in to there 40's. I know my great grandmother was, she had her last kid at 45.
Would you rather everyone start having babies younger and cut there experiences short then wait when they probably have higher education, a house, finances in order, etc.?
2007-01-09 03:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by mtoWCS09 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There probably is an age at which people should quit having children. As you point out, there's the increased risk of dying before the kids are grown or simply not having the energy to deal with them.
However, I don't know what that age is. I actually don't know of many women who are trying to conceive who are what I'd call "freakishly old" for becoming mothers, in their fifties or sixties. Those people are more common in newspaper stories than in real life.
There is a whole generation of women who wanted kids but put it off for awhile so they could pursue careers or simply having a life. My son was born when I turned forty, so I guess I'm one of them.
It might have been nice to have had him ten years sooner, but I sure am glad to have him now. I'm not struggling financially or personally the way I was in my twenties, and I'm able to stay at home with him instead of putting him in daycare. I also have a great husband who is endlessly patient and attentive to the boy.
By way of contrast, I have two younger relatives who are in their twenties and had kids at the same time. Of those, one was deserted by her husband before the baby was born, and the other left his wife and baby. In both cases the mothers are struggling to raise their kids and make ends meet.
They're the ones I really feel sorry for.
2007-01-08 22:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have made the same observation. Many women in my area focus on career first, and then have children later. I was a teacher at a school where the mothers of Kindergartners were about 50 years of age. It is very odd to see, but the children have everything they could ever dream of, and many of those moms can now stay home with their children full time.
Different people, different priorities...
2007-01-08 22:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by jane 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, women my age (40's) can make excellent mothers because we hopefully are 1) patient, 2) loving, 3) financially secure, 4) in excellent health, and 5) well educated. I own my own home (no mortage) and do not have to work any more (retired early). I have more than enough money to pay the tuition for my existing, and any future child's, college education. So you bet I want another baby.
2007-01-08 22:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 and just got remarried last year. I have two kids and my new husband is AWESOME to all of us! But, we want a baby together. My cut off is 43. I don't think that 43 is all that old! I'm ready to do it all again - I am thinking of the child, as we have A Lot to offer.
I was doing drugs and hangin' out in bars in my 20's. I wasn't ready to have kids until I was pushing 30. I'm a 'have it all' kind of person - GO ME!!
2007-01-08 22:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anne A 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 years old and I have 2 children under the age of three. I enjoy them just as much as i would if I would have had them when I was younger. I didn't want to have children when I first got married I wanted to wait awhile. You could die at any age you don't have to be old to die. I wouldn't want any children when I am older but that is my choice not yours.
2007-01-08 22:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by teddybear 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
We went to school and got us "a edumacation" first, career second, man last. We want to be able to support ourselves first of all, if necessary and hopefully we'll have waited to meet a quality man who won't run out on us since they are a little more mature.
The babies will only benefit from the type of woman who thinks out both hers and her childrens' futures by not getting knocked up by the first idiot to come along!!
Oh, and we can also help our kids with their grammar and spelling homework!
2007-01-08 22:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My mom was almost 44 when I was born and almost 49 when my kid sis was born. My mom lived to be 78. so you see by the time our mom died, my sis and I were all grown up.
So why don't you mind your own business!
2007-01-11 08:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by padget2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why that's none of your business. If they desire another child and can afford it, what is it to you? Being 40 isn't old and it sure isn't dead.
2007-01-08 22:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Who can afford a baby until they have been working (and saving) for YEARS?
2007-01-08 22:17:37 · answer #11 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋