My boyfriend was recently sent overseas in the army and im having a terrible time trying to cope, any suggestions?
2007-01-08 14:02:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
mu husband is in iraq right now so i can definately empathize with what you're going through. try and continue a routine, as horrible as it seems, everyday life does go on. go to work, go out with your friends, do chores (having an everyday routine helps). also do stuff just for you. have a spa day, spend time baking (and eating the goodies mmmmmmmm). i decided to redecorate and reorganize the house :) (if you go this route just make sure he's prepared for when he comes home).
if life doesn't feel like its getting better, there is no shame in seeking outside help. having an outside opinion and advice can be really good.
i know some bases offer free counseling services for deployed families (although since your technically not family this might not work). also a lot of employers are offering eap (employee assistance programs) which are free and confidential and don't have to be work issues (mine even advertises for martial or financial stress).
one last tip. continue to work on your relationship. even though you two are thousands of miles apart, your relationship can still grow (in new ways). make it a challenge to figure out new ways to communicate and show him that you love and support him. don't let the year (or whatever time period) go to waste...
2007-01-08 19:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by pele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically tell him each little thing you advised me. Make a %. with him that you adult men will call ech different once a nighttime to assert goodnight and make amends for the day. There are lengthy distance plans you'll get like Vonage, that you in consumer-friendly words pay a flat fee in step with month.. Vonage has a flat fee and that i'm getting to communicate everywhere contained in the NAmerican continent.
2016-12-28 12:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by harsch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ahold of a counselor or someone you truly trust that will listen to you. Talk about all your feelings and don't leave any of them out. You need to let everything out. This won't make things in the long run better, but they will help ease the change. I hope this helps.
2007-01-08 14:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by shishka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to go through this a few times already and I know that it's hard!!! I stood busy, worked as much as I could and went out with my friends. I was barely at home which made it easier not to think about him (even though it was impossible not to do it at all)!! Good luck for you guys!!
2007-01-08 15:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by BES 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is in Panama for 3 months now.The only thing that can help you is to go out with friends.Sitting and thinking on him will just make you more sad
2007-01-08 14:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by RX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am srry to hear that my husband leaves soon and ur question is very good i will be a mess but FAMILY plays a big part in support keep ur self busy write him alot and u can also email me and talk anytime. god bless and i will pray for u and ur boyfriend
2007-01-08 14:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by A soldiers wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something of interest u enjoy doing, have fun and stay true.Good Luck.
2007-01-08 14:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay busy and get involved with the other military wives/girlfriends if you can..an easy way to get connected is through the frg.
2007-01-08 15:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by stes2205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the last man on earth? If you plan on getting married then save yourself for him. If not, their are 4 billion other man that wouldn't mind getting a chance.
2007-01-08 14:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋