i want to make love but not be in a relationship is that wrong of me. i'm a new mother and don't want to fall into a bad relationship and get hurt.
2007-01-08 13:59:03 · 7 answers · asked by Emmy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sigh. I know exactly how you feel. I'm a graduate student and don't want a serious relationship because I plan to move from this city to continue attending school elsewhere in a year and a half, but it's so hard to find nice, mature guys for bed buddies.
Anyone who says "it's not possible to have sex without one of the pair developing feelings for the other" is off his or her rocker. I've had some amazing and wonderful lovers who would even bring me little presents and who were so thoughtful. I had some of my best times drinking and talking with them like old friends, and some of the greatest sex.
And I don't think anyone need insult you by implying you don't know how to use birth-control pills. If you take them every day (and don't forget for three days at a time) at around the same time, they're 99 percent effective. I've had many partners while on the pill and no slip-ups.
So you're not wrong at all. Perhaps search online (though you don't often meet the best types of people that way)? I hope you find someone good. Let me know if he has a brother.
2007-01-08 14:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it a little late to ask permission to have sex?
You don't say how old you are. While I understand the issue of loneliness, if I may say, concentrate on your child and all the rest will fall into place when you have settled into your role as a mom.
The child comes first now. Your desires second.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't have a relationship. But think about this.
You said you want a lover. Are we talking one night stands here or a long term relationship. Seems you haven't had much luck in that area.
We all end up getting hurt. That's life.
Just please don't get into the habit of brining home men when your child is a toddler or between the ages of 3-5. Not a good choice.
Just be patient if you can, ok? smile
2007-01-08 22:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's wrong to want to avoid a bad relationship or getting hurt. Wanting the physical part and nothing else , to me, is ok but you would want to be up-front with your partner and of course practice safe sex.
2007-01-08 22:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your selling yourself short. Unfortunately , life is all about taking risks, getting hurt, and sometimes making a win! There are no guarantees, but the one thing you never want to do or teach a child to do is give up. It sounds like your taking that route, and that's no way to live. So, you put your heart on the line again, we all do, it ain't easy, but at least it's living.
2007-01-08 22:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Aces 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember no birth control is 100% safe....do you want to be a new mother with 2 little ones.
Why not take care of yourself while you get used to your new life...it's safer.
2007-01-08 22:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No there is nothing wrong with that. We all have needs and sometime we all just get plain horny and need some good sex.
2007-01-09 04:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by divingonthemuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a trap because you generally cant have sex without getting emotionally involved
2007-01-08 22:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋