I have a friend that is always falling for men - like in a week, I know she is just lonely and wants a companion but she rushes into everything. So today she asked me What is Going slow... I answered her the best I could but I want to see what everyone's answer is...please be kind... NO its not me, I am happily dating someone. :)
2007-01-08 13:50:02 · 14 answers · asked by blondeokie73 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all for your answers, hopefully they will help my friend understand what it means. She has NO patience, and unless she decides to work on that, I think she will be rushing into things forever. Some good answers here hard to decide which one is best, but thank you all.
2007-01-08 14:42:44 · update #1
Taking it slow is, you see the person regularly perhaps once a week (but not religiously - it's a mellow schedule) on a "regular" date, and sometimes getting together just for shared interests (a hike, a game of tennis)... your expectations are to become dear friends and maybe introduce one another to the Big One... after a year or so, you are both saying, UH OH this is it .. I think I'm falling! And by the time you actually declare your love, it's so intense, you almost can't handle it.
2007-01-08 13:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by zilmag 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Taking it slow means making a guy or girl wait for what they really want. You're friend is always sleeping with a guy within a week, that means her relationships doesn't ever last. She gives up what they really want and now they don't see a mystery in her anymore. She has to have her partner get to know a little about her first, she get to know him a little more. Have her go on dates with them. Tell her don't ever feel that she has to put out because her date paid for anything. Once patience is achieved, everything will fall into place.
2007-01-08 13:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by miss info 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is really no special handbook that will answer your question
so i'll try based on my experiences.
meeting as friends to casual dating-about 3-5 months.
dating as in a one-on-one relationship-about 3 months after that.
serious dating usually after 9 months after meeting.
any engagement should follow 9 months to a year of dating and
an engagement prior to marriage should be up to a year in legnth.all this time helps you two work out the bugs so to speak.
any relationship from meeting to mariage is at high risk for failure within 6 months, moderate risk at 9 months and the risk
dimminishes the longer you go past 9 months.this is a base norm each person is different however most of the relationships that have failed have done so out side of the parameters mentioned.going slow is just taking your time it involves patience det the bar high but not too high make the guys work for your love in this you will weed out the guys who want only one thing.remember this, if you give it too easy you will loose all of it real easy.good luck!!! and God bless!!!
2007-01-08 14:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Taking it slow means finding out more about the person other than they are cute and they want to be physical. What makes them laugh? What is their favorite book? When was the last time they cried? Who do they admire most in their life? It takes time to build a foundation to see if a relationship is possible. Throw away the microwave and let it simmer on low for a while. You might find that's the recipe for happiness and maybe even true love.
2007-01-08 14:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by J H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me, I just keep remining myself that the first 3 mo is the honeymoon period, so I don't say the L word until day 91 if I feel that way. I'll only see him once a week at first and try to avoid daily or sudo-moving in together.
It's not a game, it's just that it's so easy to get wrapped up in the relationship and ignore warning signs.
Basically, I take it easy the first 3 months, hold out on sex until the 3rd date if I'm into the guy.
2007-01-08 13:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, taking it slow. Well, that is different with everyone, depending on what the think is fast. With your friend who falls for a guy within a week, maybe taking it slow would be trying to date a couple guys at the same time and...........not doing anything......... but going out with them until she see's the forest for the tree's. She should get to know their last name before falling in love I think......
2007-01-08 14:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
taking it slow just means let things happen on their own. don't rush it and tell him you love him after two days. give him some space. treat him like he is your friend. gradually spend more and more time with him. she might not like him anyway if she'd took the time out to get to know the person. all she has to do is wait and see what happens. pushing the relationship may run them away.
2007-01-08 14:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
taking it slow is when what's on the inside is more important than what's on the outside. taking the time to talk, to take a stroll in the park, to have a nice lunch, and simply enjoying the spontaneity of life. little to no public displays of affection. the physical aspects, such as kissing and beyond will seem like almost meaningless activites, except in privacy.
2007-01-08 13:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by CrazySnail 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my personal opinion, there is no right answer for that..some people want sex on the first night or next week..it really depends on the couple in question..not everyones feelings and desires are the same as the intentions maybe different as long as both people are mutual about what they want and are clear about their intentions.
2007-01-08 13:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by gentlegiant255 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
taking it slow means taking time to get to know someone.. I dated my fiance' for almost a month before we'd gotten intimate. I believe you should take the time to know what the other person want out of a relationship before jumping to any conclusions
2007-01-08 13:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by Northy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋