On the way tho the store this evening... my boyfriend says.. don't take this wrong way... and remember I love you.. he says... I'm bored.. Ok.. with? I ask... bored w/ our sex life.. Ok... sounds like a complaint to me.. he says... I don't want anything to change..keep in mind we have sex every night... I told him I was confused. .. to me BORING is a complaint! What do you think ?
2007-01-08 13:39:34 · 26 answers · asked by mimi941 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, your boyfriend is not making a complaint in that sense. He is being honest, and that is key. So don't push away that honesty by criticizing him for 'complaining.' Everyday, people avoid honesty by having affairs/cheating or leaving relationships altogether. Often for reasons as petty as a boring sex life.
I would say the obvious is that you guys are having sex every night. You could be the world's most emphatic love of tapioca pudding - and if you eat it EVERY single day - you WILL get bored of tapioca. But if you space out your tapioca consumption, and try eating it in different ways, out of different containers, with different spoons.... it keeps the tapioca much more 'fun' to eat. You get my point?
Boredom is an industrial-strength sexual desire dampener. Even the most highly sexed person can begin to feel ho-hum about sex if it's always the same old thing. And unless you're having (for lack of better terms) pornstar-sex every night, sex usually becomes the same old thing when had every night. If this rings true of your sexual relationship, it might be time for you to try to spice things up a bit. You need to be creative to avoid sexual boredom. Try a new location, rent a hotel room, experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, rent a sexy video, try a hot bath, candles and a massage. Cast your inhibitions to the wind.
Overall though - I'd say you guys just need to put some time in between the sexual encounters. That should be a good start. Then just build from there.
2007-01-08 14:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by MantisDream 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a complaint to me too. But I wouldn't be offended because he is probably just bored of doing it the same way not bored with you. Try some new things in the bedroom.
2007-01-08 13:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a complaint. If he's so bored stop having sex with him for a while and see how long it takes for him to get un-bored.
2007-01-08 13:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by cartiphilus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with you. Sex is NOT boring, or at least it shouldn't be. If your boyfriend believes that his sex life with you is not satisfactory, then he's lost sight of what it means to BE a boyfriend altogether. Maybe it's the fact that you have sex EVERY NIGHT that makes it "boring." I don't know; it's all in HIS head. But if your boyfriend believes that you're not doing a well-enough job, then he's probably not the right one for you. You don't have to prove anything to him and you certainly don't deserve to be treated like an object, which is what he's calling you when he says he's bored with your intimacy.
2007-01-08 13:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
hmm. He may be scared to tell you the truth so he gives little hints to guide you toward his problem. Or you might just be taking it the wrong way. But he Sounds like a gentle guy to me. What you should do is have a romantic dinner with him, then take a bubble bath together, then later that night, bang him like a wild animal. Then lets see who is "boring".
2007-01-08 13:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That IS a complaint. Ugh I hate boyfriends like that. You can either a) find a way to spice up your love life, or b) don't give him any for as long as you can and see how he feels then. If he loved you he would appreciate the sex.
2007-01-08 13:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by The Small Elephant 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he says he doesnt want anything to change, but that obviously is not true. consider this a warning that unless something happens to "spice up the night", as it were, he will continue being bored in the relationship, and may seek pleasure elsewhere.
throw on some leather and tie his hands to the bedpost, you are in control tonight sweetheart!
2007-01-08 13:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mastronaut 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he wants to try something new with you (i.e. a new sexual postion or a three-some, ect) but is afraid to bring it up to you, so hopefully you will provide an idea to try something new. That way he wont feel embarassed if he suggests something that you might hate. I wouldnt read too much into unless your routines (outside of sex) change...
2007-01-08 13:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ronald S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a complaint and it is a really mean thing to say!
2007-01-08 13:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by leah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah hes complaining. he wants new positions maybe?
i agree with the guy up there. Don't have sex with him for a while and see what happens
2007-01-08 13:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by luv2dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋