I was just talking with my husband about being a stay-at-home-dad. What the struggles might be and so on. Anyway, we got to the expectations--would stay-at-home-fathers be expected to keep a clean home or would the wife be in charge of that area?
I'm just curious. There's no way my husband could be a SAHF but it's fun to wonder what our lives would be like if he was. Thanks!
2007-01-08 13:35:07 · 38 answers · asked by .vato. 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If he was strickly a house husband . . . yes, it would be his job to take care of the house hold needs. It is the same house wives . . . stop complaining women . . . I am telling the truth. In this day of equal rights, women are complaining about their lot in life.
This was the ideal for married life, the husband goes out . . . earns enough for the entire family to live on and to put some away, and the wife takes care of the children and the household. I am not saying a wife's duties are easy, in fact . . . it is difficult . . . but it is less stressful and won't give you a coronary like the husband's duties.
In today's age . . . both the husband and the wife needs to work in most cases (thank feminism for this), and thus who does the household duties. It should be shared . . . split 50/50. I am hearing alot of ladies saying, "Yes!!!" Quiet! I haven't finished yet.
If a man makes 80% of the family income and his wife makes 20% . . . then a man's household duties is 20% and his wife is 80%. Now women are saying "but . .. but." Fair is Fair . . . each member of the household heirachy puts in 100% combined financial and household, no ifs about it.
So if a husband earns no money, and his wife is making 100% of the household income . . . and there is no need for him to work . . . I expect him to take care of the household 100%. No ifs-ands-or buts about it.
2007-01-16 10:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A SAHD would have the same expectations as a SAHM.....my husband works over 40 hours per week, I'm home, my son is four years old and goes to preschool 3 days a week, for 2.5 hours.
Therefore, there is no reason I can't clean the house, do the laundry, cook, grocery shop.....however, when my son was younger it was harder to get these things done.
My daughter is due in three weeks and he'll have to help me again for a while.
I have three friends who are SAHD...one has 4 kids under 4 (two sets of twins) so his wife has to help a lot more as he is far busier than I am with one.
2007-01-08 13:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a stay-home dad should clean, cook and everything else a stay-hom mom does. Personally I think is best if the mother stays home but maybe you are able to make more money than him. Whatever you decide is between both of you for the benefit of the kids.
2007-01-14 23:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were a stay at home mom you would be expected to clean and everything so why wouldn't a stay at home dad ?? I think he should still have to clean and take care of the baby. But you are right, a guy probably couldn't do all of that .... lol
2007-01-08 13:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the kids, or the kid. Makes a difference if there is two. They should do a lot of the household chores, yes. They are strong and have all day and they should get it done. Maybe not a perfect house as long as the kids are happy and he is not grumpy and some laundry and cooking and some cleaning gets done you can pitch in on days off or at night and get it all done together. That would be fun. lol Good luck thinking about it.
2007-01-08 13:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If he expects the wife to clean while he was a working father, the same should be expected if he becomes the stay at home parent.
2007-01-08 13:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first priority of the at-home parent is to parent, not clean a house.
Any at-home parent is going to have to manage the household to a large extent, which involves doing a lot of chores. The working parent, however, should certainly clean up after him/herself, cook and clean on the weekends, and put in time with the children.
After all, stay-home moms work nearly 24-7. Hopefully not on cleaning, tho.
2007-01-08 13:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes. If he is going to stay home then his only responsibility is not the kids. It is the house, the laundry, the kids, the grocery shopping. Everything women are expected to do. When I leave my hubby home with my kids the house is a disaster... no matter how long. Why should I have to clean it up if he gets to stay home all day?
2007-01-08 13:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person that stays at home should be the one to do most of the chores BUT the working spouse should help out as well. The working parent just does not get the rest of the evening off when he/she gets home while the stay at home parent is still continuing his/her duties. Both parents have parenting and things to do ALL the time.
2007-01-09 00:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absloutly!!! Thats part of being a stay at home partner. If you can be home and clean the house and run errands and do all that thats the responsibility. Does your husband come home and clean the house, no, he would a) probably not notice or if he's a jerk b) say hey didn't you get anything done? If you can do it he should do it.
2007-01-08 13:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by useless_knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋