why have I never had a boyfriend?

Question

I'm almost fifteen and I've never had a boyfriend. Almost all of my friends have. And lots of girls in my school. I'm not ugly or nerdy or anything. I look good for school and have some friends. Well two questions. Is this weird for me to have never had a boyfriend? And how do I get one?

Answer 1

question is.... why are you still up on a school night?

get to bed young lady- 15's not too old to not have had a b/f- i wasn't interested in boys for a very long time. that's because most of them then were all a bunch of eejits!

you will get one when you least expect it

Answer 2

Being fifteen and without a boyfriend is perfectly normal. I personally believe that all the relationships that happen before high school don't count, so you probably have nothing to worry about. All I can say is don't be too hard on yourself because it'll repel guys away from you if you're too self-conscious, and if you ever find that you have a mad crush on a guy friend, make a move if you feel the it's right and that he might just like you too. Relax. Stay confident. There's no rush.

Answer 3

It is not weird. I know it's silly to say so, but these things take time.

Have you asked any guys? Are there any you would like as a boyfriend? Ask them. You are probably more mature then most of the guys you know, so take the lead.

Most 15yo guys are way to shy to ask you. Most of them will want to have sex, even though they may not know how to go about it.

Take your time, don't judge just by looks: How does he treat other people? It's not so much are you good enough to get a boyfriend, but are any of those guys good enough for YOU.

The real trick to getting a guy, if you can handle it, is to ignore them in just the right way to make them come after you. This could take some practice and could backfire on you the first few times.

And don't be nervous. Just ask them the question; "Why don't you take me to the dance (game, movies, county fair, mall)? If they say no, it's their loss.

Answer 4

No, it´s not weird. It means you ahven´t found the right person yet. Don´t worry, you have plenty of time.

First, though, you need to figure out why you wanna have a boyfriend in the first place. Is it for it to look good to others? or is it because you are looking for someone with whom to share things? or do you feel like you wanna be in love? These things don´t happen magically, you´ll probably meet a guy, become friends and then it´ll develop into something else. But think about what you really want and expect.

Answer 5

I don't think it's weird at all - a large percentage of people at my high school were not dating. It's going to be on your mind because all your friends (or what seems like all your friends) have had boyfriends, and there's a sort of peer pressure from comparing yourself. But just know that right now you've still got lots of time.

Focus on doing well in school and being a fun, interesting, and well-respected person. These things will improve your chances of people being interested in you, especially as you get past high school.

Finally, if you really still want to date, I think chances are if you pick a boy and pay a lot of attention to him he'll notice and be open to asking you out.

Answer 6

no no of course not! after all, you are only 15. most people don't have their first boyfriend until they're much, much older. don't judge yourself based on other people. others may have boyfriends, but will having a boyfriend make your happier because you have someone special you can talk to, or will it make you happier because you can tell people you have a boyfriend?

but i do have a solution. now, since you're in school, you're going to be going through a lot of drama, learning plenty of new things everyday. one of the best ways to get through this is to find someone you can talk to, about life and philosophy. and who knows, maybe this person can be a guy friend....who becomes a special guy friend...it's always those unexpected ones who bring us most joy.

so don't look for a boyfriend, let it happen naturally. that way, you won't be disappointed if you don't get one. getting a boyfriend isn't like a new year's resolution, like getting a job. it's part of life! so enjoy it :)

Answer 7

Honey it's not weird and I remember feeling the exact same when I was fifteen. I went out with my first boyfriend at sixteen. There is no rush, concentrate on your studies and someone will come along when you least expect, you have the rest of your life to date :o)

Answer 8

You are waaaaay too young to worry about all these stuff. I know it is very tempting to see ur friends with boyfriends and it makes u feel lonely, but trust me, at this age... not worth it. At this age, you should be thinking about ur future, concentrate on ur studies and career and when the time is right the guy will come along. PLus if u go out looking for one, u r guaranteed not to find the best one!! Just leave it be and let them come to you.

Answer 9

I had my first boyfriend at 19. Most of my friends started dating in college. Don't be in a rush. Enjoy your time to yourself and concentrate on meeting new people and doing well at school. Boys come and go, But your high school transcript is for life.

Answer 10

It is NOT weird. I am 25 and I tell you that I didn't have a boyfriend at age 15 because I was not allowed to date before college. There are a lot of people I know that don't have a boyfriend at age 15 because their parents don't let them. So it is ok to not have a boyfriend at 15. If you want to have one, you have to start to dress nice, act nice, and wear a lot of makeup.

Answer 11

Why do girls feel they must have a boyfriend..why do they feel their worth depends on it? Because society has brainwashed them too.

You're 15, focus on who you want to be and school. I'm nearly 25 and although I get hit on (by guys who just want to have some fun with me) I've never really had a boyfriend either. I'm also on my third degree (Master's), and my friends are the same...because we've made ourselves our top priorities.