Ok, here it goes. I have been dating this guy for six months now and he proposed to me in September, wants to marry in May. It sounds great and exciting and I love him, however (I know there is always a however!) he wants to wait until marriage for intimacy. I mean no spending the night, NADA. The thing is we have already been intimate and all of a sudden he changes his mind? Oh did I forget to add "Big time Momma's boy" his schedule revolves around her....not me!!!! Am I jumping to conclusions, is he cheating, is it me? I see him two days a week and in that time it's like three hours each day, it's like he can't be around me long enough to ask me how my day was.
2007-01-08 13:31:28 · 7 answers · asked by Angel27Hou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok. I know you said yes and all, but it's never too late to back out, even if you're at the altar. You have to ask yourself, Do you really want to fight a losing battle with his mother? The only way you're going to get this guy's attention is to be blunt. Say, "Hey, for someone who wants me to marry them, you sure aren't trying very hard to sweep me off my feet." I believe the wife(to-be) should come before the mother in any reasonable case. Just tell him if you're going to only see him 6 hours a week, you're not so sure you want to marry into that. And if he's say it'll be different then, well why shouldn't it be different now? My finance can be stubborn and hardheaded too and he loves his mother. You just have to tell him how you want it, compromise, or be done with it. As for the momma's boy, call him out on it. Loving and having respect for your mother is one thing, but being a momma's boy is quite different and isn't exactly the most attractive thing in the world. You may want to double think this decision. Tell him you need a little longer to prepare yourself for this life decision. If he can withhold, so can you.
2007-01-08 13:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on your problems and concerns now! DO NOT wait until afte the wedding! It will only get worse! Trust ME!!!! And insist that he realize that the Momma's boy stuff wont fly once he's married. I have been married for over a year, and wish that I would have fixed our problems before, b/c now he says if it bothered you so much before, then why did you marry me!
Things always get worse with time in a mairrage, deal with it, before it deals with you! By this I mean, since you haven't dealt with the problem, it is obviously eating away at you and will contnue to be a problem until you have dealt with it. Good luck and best wishes!
2007-01-08 23:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the mommas boy. Get yourself a pinkwilli. Its always there for you when you need some attention.
2007-01-08 21:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN, don't walk, away from this guy. A momma's boy is a recipe for disaster.
2007-01-08 21:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by BenTeenVille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your going to be spending the rest of your life with this guy then you gotta spend more time getting to know him now....six months isn't a long time...you don't want to make a mistake...he needs to know that he needs to make more time for you...and how your feeling...just be honest with yourself and to him...good luck...
2007-01-08 21:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask others that question then the answer has to be NO;
while you have doubts yourself - it is much better to call things off - or at least postpone a wedding.
2007-01-08 22:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his MF ***! lol
2007-01-08 21:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Melli! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋