I have known this man 3 months. He has asked me to marry him. I am a Christian but although I am back slidden, I know that I should not marry a man who is not right for me. I cannot bear another failed marriage. I know I should ask God to guide me rather than ask for advice on here, but I am scared to make myself vulnerable again. I love God. I know he loves me. I feel lost.
2007-01-08 13:26:47 · 15 answers · asked by shyanniegirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your agony suggests you already know something is not right. Just slow down and let God show you what to do through circumstance. Tell him you need more time - if he really loves you he can wait - when you make the right decision it is confirmed by peace in your heart and not anxiety.
2007-01-08 13:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not jump into a marriage so quickly, especially if you are back slidden. You didn't say whether the man is a Christian or not. If he is a backslidden Christian also then both of you should seek the Lord first, repent and get back on track with Him first and then He will direct your path. The bible says that they will come to weak women (meaning women who are back slidden, who know what to do but never doing it, and looking for the easy way). He may seem sincere and nice but if you are a Christian you are asking for trouble if you don't rely on God to show you the way.
I know , because I've been there and done that, three times before I realized my stupidity and blindness to God. I could have avoided years of troubles and heart ache if I had stayed on that straight and narrow path.
2007-01-08 13:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get right with God. Forget about Him, forget about everything. First think on the important things. If you were to die tonight would you go to heaven or Hell?
Did you know that if you continue to sin as a Christian, that is proof that you are not actually a Christian? Take some time and get right with God. Repent of your sins as we all must do every day and then Read and Obey the bible.
Go to sermonaudio.com and download sermons. Fill yourself with God's word, and He will guide you. You need to get right first, before even thinking of relationships.
This is what Jesus said...
"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery"
Stop the sin. Repent and turn from your sin. Ask for forgiveness and trust in the Bible that you are forgiven. Then obey the word of God.
1 John 2:3-4 "We know that we have come to know him if we obey his commands. The man who says, "I know him," but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in him."
What if you were to die tonight?
2007-01-08 13:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by dooltaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to church with you. Back slidden?, Its a good time to start going to church again. Don't be afraid-take him to church. Just tell him you are seeking God's will about him in your life. If he runs away-you have your answer. If he really loves you-church will not scare him away-it may make him nervous, but thats okay.
Good luck.
And, I think you are doing the right thing by asking. But, put your trust in the Lord and not people like me.
2007-01-08 13:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by DATA DROID 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is very little time, and God is a much better source than us. Talk to God, because He is waiting on you to ask for His help. Don't be scared about making yourself vulnerable, because by not submitting to God's authority, you already are vulnerable. You will be in a better position under God's wing (so to speak) than on your own. I think that you should tell your boyfriend that 3 months is WAY too little time, and perhaps to ask you again in a year.
2007-01-08 13:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Iamnotarobot (former believer) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're making it more difficult than it really is dear. If you prayed and asked God to guide you in this, and you still have questions, that is his answer to you. Remember that God is not the author of confusion so if you're confused about any part of this relationship you better back off now.
2007-01-08 13:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Heaven's Messenger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To reminds you of His existence... and the Devils omnipotent, but with the thoughts of marriage... you can only marry once, if you know what I mean... so, just share for the sake of the solemness of creation. Love guides us into the folds of God through our family.
2007-01-08 18:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by wacky_racer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not ready to answer either yes or no. What's the rush? And if he pushes you to decide quickly, then he's up to no good. He must wait for you to feel comfortable with either a yes or a no. This is YOUR life, not his. It is up to you to share your life with him or not. Maybe God can reveal the man's heart to you in a dream. You need to know if he is good for you before you commit yourself, as it seems you do not take commitments lightly.
2007-01-08 13:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by TruBlevr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith that God has a plan for our existence, and if that distinctive somebody is in touch God will instruction manual us to that guy or woman. whether, i could say that we as human beings do have a tendency to objective and write our very own love memories-- i'm not asserting that that's what your doing, whether it does ensue.
2016-10-30 09:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God lets us know in our heart if we are with the person we are meant to be with and if you are questioning if he is right for you maybe you already have the answer. Pray and and ask for guidance for certainty and listen to your heart . It's our ear to God. Good luck.
2007-01-08 13:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋