im in highschool and my boyfriend asked me the Q: "if you got into a really good college and i didn't, would u still go?" so i said "yea, and if the opposite happened i'd want u to go too!"
i said that i am thinking about whats best for me and whats best for him, but he said that he's thinking about whats best for "us." we're not MARRIED or anything, and like i love him, but in the long run i think itd be better for me to do whats best for me right NOW --- that way, i dont spend the rest of my life thinking "what if"...
was i wrong? would you have said that you wouldnt go to the good school?
2007-01-08 13:24:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
highschool relationships should NEVER determine what your future is. First, if the guy does not want what is best for you- that is already saying he is being selfish and doesnt want you to reach to your full potential. Do the best you can and follow your dreams, if he cant respect that, then you dont want someone around like that who will put a barier between you and your dreams. there are plenty more guys out there, give some other guys a chance, you have plenty of time to settle down in college and after college, for the time being, just have fun and meet new people
2007-01-08 13:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by chris_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right because you were honest, trust is the cornerstone of all relationships, and you can't have trust without honesty.
If you do get married, getting the best education you can will help your career and give the both of you a better life, not to mention the lives of your future children. If you are meant to be together, than 4 years apart will be a challenge, but will make your relationship stronger than ever. If you are not meant to be together, then you should not base one of the most important decisions of your life on the present, but on future potential.
In the end, honesty is always the best route, sometimes it can be difficult to hear the truth, but it's always best in the long run.
2007-01-08 21:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You were not wrong. You were being honest. Why would you give up the opportunity to go to an excellent school and all the advantages that will bring because of a high school romance. You are very young and there will be many more boys and then men in your life. Good Luck
2007-01-08 21:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by now_what 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre young, you have your life ahead of you. Your next four years are going to be the most important in your life though. Stay your course and go to which college you chose. If he cant wait then thats tough. Cause your college education is what is going to give you a better life.
You dont want that big "what if" to haunt you the rest of your life. Make your choices and dont look back.
2007-01-08 21:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by "EL SANCHO" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not wrong if that's what you really think and for now you should be worrying about yourself...not the future because you live your life now and what you do adds on to your future. i would go to a good school for the fact that i don't want to be a house wife!
2007-01-08 21:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by ktpunk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered right. you guys are barely in high school. hello. you guys are together now, enjoy it, when the time comes to go to college you guys have to make the best of the choices of schools you have. you'll fall in love again. the pain will be less. enjoy each other don't get pregnant, continue with your studies.
2007-01-08 21:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, you can go to whatever school you want to, its not like your atatched at the hip, but no you were not wrong to say that if you got accepted into a good school that you would go.
2007-01-08 21:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by ilikepink25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, your not married and its up to you to decide whats best for YOU. if thats goin to a good college then thats what you need to do, if he really loves you he will understand and support you no matter what!
2007-01-08 21:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right decision. If he really cares about you then he will realize why you made the decision you made and accept it. In the end if he stays with you then in the end he wont regret his decision.
2007-01-08 21:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by strwberryshortcake_65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definitly would have said the same thing.
yeah you love him but there are alot of guys out there.
and if he is not willing to respact your decision you can always move on..
2007-01-08 21:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by kayluh_mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋