Sex with no strings attached?

Question

went out with this guy for 3 months and we kind of decided to become friends. It woudn't work out for us as a couple for now (I recently broke up with a guy with whom I was 2 years with and I need some time alone to think about school, myslef and what I want out of life). He also thinks we should just be friends. I know though that he would want sex with no stings attached with me. I know he still likes me and this would just be between us but I'm wondering, would this be a good idea to do? I never had sex with no strings attached. he was the 3rd guy i slept with. will i develop feelings by just sleeping with him? will i be ok if someday he finds a girlfriend? will he if i find a guy? what would you do?

Answer 1

Don't do it. I did it with my ex and I feel like a total idiot because of it. I don't know about you but it the NSA relationship won't last forever and when it's done with you'll probably feel kind of used or you'll just regret it.

Answer 2

I see why the other relationship of yours didnt work. You are constantly thinking of what ifs, and when stuck you wont do anything but stir. Break this habit while you are young..I can only guess about the "no strings," it isnt complicated as long as neither of you make impossible demands. As far as to wonder if you can handle it, yes of course you can, only keep it simple. No flowers, dates, or spending the nite, neither one of you. After two hrs, business has been handled, one of you all must leave. The second rule is, there are never any pop-ups, a call and verbal confirmation must be made prior to any visits. A friend cannot be "a no strings attached," person. Please do not get "booty calls," and "friends with benefits" confused. No strings, is a booty call. Booty calls are strictly about sexual gratification without having the consequence of being in a relationship. NO gifts, NO dates, NO attitudes to get used to, NO bringing the person home to meet the parents! Any questions?

Answer 3

There is no such thing you will develop feelings stronger than the ones you have no the only way to have sex with no strings attached is to have sex with someone and never ever see or hear from them again. You obviously care about him so it would probably be best for both of you if you don't have sex. Things would get very complicated and uncomfortable if you started dating someone or he did. I would definitely try not to get into that because it will really complicate things and if you need some time alone to think about school than do that don't worry about having sex or relationships (boyfriend, girlfriend relationships).

Answer 4

Most people associate emotions with sexual activity. It is a natural human reaction. To be completely devoid of emotional respone during intercourse, and not derive some form of attachment to those responses is not something that a person can do easily.

If you have a "No Strings Attached" relationship once, is one thing, if you do it repeatedly, call it what it is, A relationship! Eventually while keeping the NSA mentality, one of the members will find someone else, move on and the other will get hurt, regardless of what either think.

But hey, your young, and carefree, hump like a mad monkey and enjoy the ride.

Answer 5

If you're pretty well over the guy (just remind yourself of what a pain in the a.ss he was while you were dating) and just recently dated someone else more seriously and have school and homework and grades to worry about, I doubt you'll get attached to the guy just from sex. You can officially consider him a ***** buddy - the most pleasant, convenient relationship a person can have, in my opinion. He'll be a bed buddy for nights you don't want to sleep alone, someone to cuddle with, someone you can dress up sexy for, someone you can call to come over for a drink whenever you're lonely, and someone to screw your brains out. And none of the clinginess or annoyance! You can kick him out of the house whenever you want and not feel bad because you have a busy week with five school projects and can't see him. Doesn't get much better than that.

P.S. Having a ***** buddy doesn't mean you have "no feelings" for each other. You're friends. Of course you still care about each other like friends, but not like a married couple with plans to be stuck together the rest of your lives.

You can still meet other guys in the meantime; a temporary or long-term bed buddy does not ban you from having coffee with someone else you think you might really like, or from drinking with guy friends. No big deal. You've just both agreed that you have more important goals in life than trying to "make it work," but would like to help curb each other's loneliness and appetites in the meantime.

P.S.S. A guy who would have sex with you one night and another girl the next is not a ***** buddy; he's a man-whore. Know the distinction. Be sure you trust that he'll tell you who he's sleeping with; otherwise he's dangerous (disease-wise) for you. A friend would be thoughtful enough to want to keep you safe and in the loop.

Answer 6

why would you want to just have sex? Even with protection you still run the risk on contracting an STD not to mention people thinking of you as "easy" or a ****. My suggestion is either satisfy yourself with a toy or rethink the dating/commitment idea. Having sex just to have sex usually is not a good idea. You should think better of yourself than that, why do you "really need to get laid" right now? If you are constantly needing sex then I would talk to a counselor to make sure you aren't addicted to sex. If you must give in to your urges then look for an escort service for females but check out the business throughly and make sure that their employees undergo regular testing for STDs and make sure you don't give out personal information, last thing you want or need is a stalker.

Answer 7

tricky question because it depends a lot on you and him. you can have fun sex with minimal strings attached, but you also run the risk of becoming attached.

Think about how you would feel if he slept with you one night and another girl the next. If that thought would upset you than i wouldn't go there. If it wouldn't bother you at all, then maybe consider giving it a go.

do what is fun and best for you girl.

Answer 8

The friends with benefits is good in theory, but rarely works. One or both usually ends up feeling guilty and it can ruin a friendship. I would not suggest doing it if you value the friendship.

Answer 9

sex with no strings attached are called "one nighters" other than that, it is impossible to have reoccurring sex with the same partner and not develop some kind of feelings. (even if it is not love it will be jealousy and controling feelings)

Answer 10

for a girl, i don't know if it's possible to have a no-strings attached sex with someone always and never develop feelings for him. maybe on a one-nighter it's not possible. but more than once? hmm....

if he just wants to be friends with you, it means he's just asking for free, non-committal sex. would you allow yourself to be just a '******* friend'?