Why cant I find the right guy?

Question

I'm a very open minded person and i get along with most people. I guess i'm pretty b/c i used to model about a year ago.( I have the same features as my picture)I run track and xc so i'm in great physical condition. I think i have a good personality but u can't really judge that by yourself.
I'm kind of laid back and shy so it's hard to attract the right guy. Usually i get guys who use me and take advantage of me because they know that i won't do anything. Guys who are really outgoing and are players. But i'm sick of that type.I don't really know how to get the right guy so please help me on this situation.
Thanks,Chloe g :)

Answer 1

Start looking in church.

Answer 2

Well one thing I wonder is why you are looking for a guy right now. I don't know how old you are but you seem to have a good life and are busy in what you do. Don't define yourself by who you are with if that is the case. The right guy will come to you when you put the time in finding him. Another thing you want to think about is not what makes him so right but what are you putting out there for people to see. If you are in high school or even the first years of college don't worry about finding someone concentrate on school and get the most out of that. Do waste time trying to find the perfect guy. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Assuming that your guy is the same age as you are, I want to clarify something about the men of that age (16). This is exactly the time when a man is about to change from not caring very much for kissing and not understanding what is so enjoyable and sexual about it to wanting it to do very much. I wish to assure you that your guy is going through that process and he just needs a bit more time to develop sexually. You being a girl have matured sexually earlier than him, but he needs just a little more time to get there. This is the stage when it all happens for him. He is half way there, trust me. BUT DON'T PRESSURE HIM. Pressure will only confuse him. There is no point and it's even undesirable to pressure a guy into something like that. The kiss must come from HIM, FROM HIS DESIRE TO DO THAT. If you like him otherwise, please exercise a bit of patience and stop making moves on him. Flirt, tease, have a good time and he will kiss you when he is ready, believe me. Once he reaches that stage where his insticts take over, he will do all the work like all other men do.
For now, TELL HIM THAT YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THIS KISSING THING AND YOU JUST ENJOY BEING WITH HIM. As soon as the pressure is off and he realizes that it's not that big of a deal, he will be more open and free to do all kinds of fun things to you and with you.

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Thanks.

Answer 4

If you are all the time looking for Mr. Right. Then you would not find him. You need to relax and forget about it and then Mr. Right well come before you know it. For example when you lose something that you like and you are still looking for it for a month afterwards you just say forget about it!!!, then later on that year it pops up no where. That's how it goes...when you are looking for the right guy...... So just forget about it and then he should appear....
Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Dear Chloe, there are plenty of guys out there. Sounds like you've been making some bum choices. So, let's work on making your choices. First, learn to love yourself, to honor and respect yourself. You have described a fantastic woman, smart, fit and attractive. Certainly any guy would go for those qualities. When a guy hits on you, consider if you are honoring yourself by being with him. Does he honor you? If you choose a guy just to have a guy, you're in for trouble. So, get yourself in love with yourself and you will be fine. Good luck.

Answer 6

Just hang in there, the right guy will come along. At least you see the guys who are players. There are a lot of guys that would appreciate a girl like you. You might just find the right guy in church. Good luck...You really are a smart girl.

Answer 7

Yea, first, your looking in the wrong places. A bar is not a good place for a long term relationship.

Second, I know every1 says this, but stop trying. The more desperate you get, the harder it will get. Just let fate take place, and enjoy yourself while you wait

Answer 8

perhaps you need to stop looking at the physical attributes a guy has to offer, and look more at his personality.

I was in the same boat as you, but its not hard to meet guys as friends, get to there personalities before you jump into a relationship or anything physical.

My boyfriend is more then just how he looks, its his personality that i love.

Answer 9

you're in cross country and track, what guy wouldnt go crazy for that?! Cross country RULES!

unfortunatly, i dont have much great advice to give on how to find the right guy because idk what would be right for you. the only thing i can think of is that some day the right guy will come along.

im in the same situation but on the opposite side of the fence, so lemme know how it turns out

Good luck and happy hunting! : )

Answer 10

probably looking in all the wrong places, look in the grocery store, wal-mart, gas stations, the right one will catch your eye, clubs are for immature little boys with ego problems, and the self proclaimed players, he will come along keep busy, he will come along, when i was single all i found was a bunch of fattys, im in good shape as well, i dont do fat, but itseems like thats all there was, it took me a while to find a fit woman

Answer 11

Hm.. try looking for guys in areas/places that YOU yourself like to go to or hang out (at the library, park or gym? .. just to name a few). Most likely, you'll find someone who has the same interests as you. But just take your time :) you'll eventually find that mr.right .. you know what they say .. you just gotta to kiss a few frogs before you get your prince .


Good luck !