My son is the sweetest little boy and my hearts breaks every time I pick him up. Is there anything I can do to console him and make him enjoy his time there?... I tell him that Mommy loves him and that I will be back to pick him up very soon and give him a kiss good bye. Any other suggestions?
2007-01-08 13:11:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my youngest son did this when he first went to daycare although he was 1 1/2. The teachers there first thing would write him a mommy note. It would say "mommy loves me and will pick me up at 4 o'clock, this helped him. Then over time he started to realize that I was going to pick him p every day and it got easier for him. You just have to find the thing that works for him to help him to understand that you will be there to pick him up.
2007-01-08 13:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had that with a few of my daycare children. I don't know if he is new or doesn't like change. When you think about it when you are 1 or even 2 when you are going to daycare twice a week in between those days he is home with you and you show him different attention and love and basiclly everything is different and then he goes to daycare and everything has changed and you are not there and it is scary. It will take time for it to get more comfortable for him. Once it starts becoming more of a routine then he will be fine. Maybe if posible you could have him going full time for a few weeks and then go back to parttime so he can get used to it. The best thing to do is give him a kiss and hand him off. I know it breaks your heart but he may also be getting more worked up because he knows he can do it to you.
2007-01-11 09:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell, my son still sometimes cries when I leave him at "school"(daycare) and he has been going there since May of last year. He just needs some time to put 2 and 2 together and realize you are gonna come back and get him. At his age he doesn't get that concept yet. Be patient and even though it breaks your heart this is good for him in the long run associating with other children his age. My lil man even has a lil girlfriend. He follows her all day and visa~versa. It's okay mommy!
2007-01-08 13:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by jule9104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT stand and console him. Give him a kiss, tell him you'll be back later and walk away. He WILL get used to it. You're just not letting him. The first time I put my daughter in day care she cried for two solid weeks. The third Monday I took her I told the day care that it didn't seem to be working out and that if she cried all day that day I would be quitting my job and going back to being a stay at home mom...Yes she cried as I was leaving...But when I got there after work, she ran up to me pushed me out the door and told me to "go home"...seems she had made a couple of friends and they were having fun and I had interuppted the fun by coming to pick her up. Needless to say I didn't quit my job and she still maintains a friendship with one of the girls she was in day care with...they're both 21years now...
2007-01-08 17:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just an idea you could hire a nanny to watch your kid in your home while you work It might even be cheaper than day care. if he is crying all day..... It may not be a loving situation and that can do more damage emotionally in the long run!!!! on the up side the nany might do house work too... a plus i am sure. with some one watching your kid in your home you know what is going on and just explain what you expect from the care giver they can go to the park down the street for 2 hours keep your child in comfortable suroundings a child shouldn't cry all day he is just not ready for that kind of enviorment the ymca has drop and shop days two times a week for 20 $ they watch your child for three hours and it could be an alternative to day care
2007-01-08 15:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by donaberry1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got self assurance your soreness and that i'm sorry. I purely had the comparable ordeal. First my in-domicile daycare husband and spouse have been became into CPS for touching between the older females inappropriately, which scared me to dying and broke my heart. i in my opinion depended on and felt comfortable with those people. Then my mom and stepfather have been looking after my 20 month previous as quickly as I found out that he's an alcoholic, so I positioned my baby in a daycare around the corner from my artwork. My daughter cried all a thank you to daycare yelling for her grandma and cried and screamed each and each of how interior the daycare and that i might desire to pay attention her as I walked out the door. They could not even feed her breakfast there because of the fact she became so unruly. we've been going there for terribly almost 8 weeks now and purely the day gone by we drove with out crying and she or he went to her instructor hesitantly, yet with out screaming her head off. immediately she did sturdy too. It purely takes time. I promise. i might additionally provide her somewhat prize on the tip of the day, like a cookie or coloring e book, if she became a "super lady". i in my opinion talked up being a huge lady and not crying at "college" blah blah blah. Now that she is doing extra effective she is elementary with she is being a huge lady and she or he talks approximately it each and all of the time. sturdy success!
2016-12-15 19:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely sure he is crying all day? Kids usually adapt fairly well. He may cry when you leave and cry when you return, but is he truly crying all day?
When my kids were young, I had to take them to a sitter every weekday. One day, they ALL cried when I left --I felt awful. When I picked them up that night, the sitter told me that they stopped crying before I even got out of the driveway!
If he is not used to being left, he may just need some time to adjust. Or there may be someone there he does not like for some reason.
2007-01-08 14:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you working?
Is it truly a matter of family survival?
Unless you would be at risk of severe financial hardship, quit.
I took a 1 year Leave of Absence 3 1/2 years ago. We had saved enough for me to stay home one year - and that was in 2003. Somehow we have budgeted, saved, and got creative to live on one income. And we don't have credit card debt. (And no, my husband does not make "great" money. He makes about what I did as a teacher.)
I could work and we could do more. But not at the cost of a unhappy child.
PS - as a former teacher, please do not pick up the habit of some and call day care "school." It confuses them when they do start attending real school.
2007-01-08 13:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you like that particular daycare? If it doesn't feel good to you, he probably will never like it. I do not have any kids so I am not an expert by any means, but maybe 1 year old is too young for your son to be separated from you. You have to weigh the pros and cons and go with your gut. Good luck.
2007-01-08 13:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him take a photo book (the small kind) of pictures of you and the rest of the family....even the pet. Let him take a special pillow or cover for nap time. Give him time and he will begin to realize that you will come get him every time.
I thought of something I did with my daughter: I would put on red lipstick and kiss the back of her hand and she would have in on there for most of the day. She had my kiss with her during the adjustment time in the morning. It worked for us as silly as it may sound.
2007-01-08 13:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by mel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋