Friendship problems........?

Question

Okay so the thing is that my friend and I are always fighting and I can't decide if she is a real friend. I am starting to think she isnt worth it because when I told her who I was going to the formal dance with she laughed. I have only been her friend for like a year and the friend that I have known for a long time didnt laugh. We are always getting in to fights and this is almost the biggest ever to happen. I don't know what to do anymore. Is she a true friend do you think?

Answer 1

Please listen to me:
I'm not lieing one bit. I have gone through the exact same thing as you. I had this friend I met in kindergarten and we were friends for eight years. Over those eight years, I had the doubts that she was slipping away from me-she was making fun of me to make herself feel better, ditching me to hang out with someone "cooler", and getting mad at me for no apparent reason. I'm a freshmen in high school now, and I've come to realize I need a new friend.

But nevermind about me...let's get onto your situation.

Yes, I think she is not a friend. Best friends would love to encourage you and say to you "that's great your going to a dance!" If they didn't like your date, they wouldn't laugh at you. They would say, "Oh...I'm glad your going but...if you want me honest opionion, he's not my type of guy...." If your getting into fights often about the stupidest things I would end your friendship now. You can't get along or agree on something, obviously. I know it'll be lonely if you do decide to break up with her, but trust me, it's worth it. I'd rather be lonely than have a bad friend hanging out with me all the time.

Good luck and have fun at the dance :)

Answer 2

I would just confront her about the problems you have with each other. For example, when she laughed when you said who your date is, I would have turned and looked at her and said why is that funny. When she continue's to laugh or says oh it's nothing, be stern and make her realize it bugged you. This should open up a conversation on how you really feel. If she doesn't respect you and all you guys do is fight, then I really don't think you guys have a friendship worth having.

Answer 3

Just let her go. Obviously if she is gonna laugh at who you are goin to a dance with then she is just dumb. There is so many people out there that can be a better friend then her that you shouldnt even still consider her your friend. If you have other friends that are there for you then why should it even matter what she thinks? Just let her go and bring somebody else down. Live life and be happy with out her always bein in the way. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

You have to remember that the foundation of every relation you will have in your life will begin with respect!

And also In order to call a person a friend you have to have trust.
And Trust is something that is earned ...not given away !!!

if your friend is a true friend he/she will learn to ...RESPECT your decisions and back you up and support you no matter what..that's a true friend....Friends are there through thick & Thin....in good times and bad times.

And if you both fight all the time you have to remember that every person is entitled to their opinion...and not everyone thinks alike.
Respect their opinion...even if you think their wrong...if thats what they think then so be it...why argure or debate what they think ...if you think otherwise...you are entitled to your opinion as well.
Just remeber to respect others thouhgts & opinions...and let people earn your trust.....then life becomes alot easier !

Good Luck with your friend !

Happy New Year !

Answer 5

True friend or not, what this boils down to is happiness.

Friends should make you feel good and should be able to confront you on certain issues without fear of you walking away pissed. Do you have this?

If you're fighting all the time, like angry fighting not just disagreeing, I would say that this relationship is not at all healthy and should be put to an end.

If you're doing things that are not beneficial to your life and she's trying to tell you that, then maybe you should listen to what she says and evalutate the path you're treading upon.

Answer 6

Last year i had a friend like that. You can still be her friend so she won't be like" y aren't u tsking to me?" and talking like its u not her but just be careful with what you say and don't feel bad when she laughs at you she's probably jealous of you just like my friend. If u feel bad that sh'e not ur friendanymore, don't cuz she doesn't deserve a friend like u. BEST OF LUCK!

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like she is. You're probably better off without her. Make other friends. Real friends don't laugh at you, or always fight with you.

Answer 8

If she was a true friend she'd support you in anything, especially the guy department. It doesn't sound like it's worth it. Just forget about her.

Answer 9

I had this problem and this is what I did. I called her and i said, we need to talk. and she said she was busy. so i told her that if our friendship meant anything to her, we needed to talk. that day. So she found a way outta her plans and came over. I told her that things btwn us had changed and i was questioning the friendship. She felt horribly and explained. we cried and laughed and spent the whole day together fixing thigns. i hope it works for you.

Answer 10

I don't know what grade you're in, but I can tell you that there are different kinds of friends in life. I bet you can even think now who you will be friends with in five years, and she isn't one of them. You should just keep on decent terms with her and not count of being friends forever. these are the people who need to cut you down to build themselves up. do you really need the drama?