My 12 year old daughter is very smart, an A and B student, when she turns her homework in or does it. We have been struggeling with her for the past year on this issue. We have tried grounding her, taking away priveliges, phones, computer, t.v., video games, bribing her with money...everything to get her grades up and to keep up with her schoolwork, but it has failed. Has anyone out there had this issue with their kids and had a succesful remedy to this situation?
2007-01-08 12:51:09 · 3 answers · asked by tippysock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I took two days off work and attended all my son's classes with him both days. At lunchtime I'd say, "I packed us a lunch! Where do you and your friends sit?" He was mortified... but it allowed me to see what was going on in class... and with his teachers... and let him know he needed to take care of business or risk having it (or worse, which I never could dream up) happen again!
Worked like a charm on him, and my two younger daughters saw it happen and haven't been a problem!!!
2007-01-08 13:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when i was twelve. I remember it was something personal. Maybe your daughter is struggling with friendship problems (if she had a best friend) or maybe its a guy in school, or maybe its issues with herself. I had very low self esteem when i turned twelve and it caused my grades to suffer. Middle school was harsh because i wasnt happy with myself. What made me pick up, was when i discovered a new hobby and a way to view myself better. A better way to look at my future. I discovered my own musical talents and it made me happy and it made me want to achieve.
My own brother (i'm constantly babysitting and its my job to make sure he has gud grades) has been slacking just like your daughter. He's very smart. My parents and I have been struggling for the past 2 years on this issue. Finally I found out that he just didnt care. He didnt care about privelages, grounding, computer, TV, video games, money, NOTHING. He didnt really care about his life and future. I found out by observing his behavior, that he wasnt happy with his appearance. I talked to him just to confirm it and he said he thought he was fat. That simple word, 'fat', had him depressed and careless towards life.
Don't bribe or continue with the options you have tried. I think you should spend some time with her doing things she loves and maybe going on a little vacation and see if it cheers her up. and maybe sit down with her and tell her, "we're very concerned about you and you don't slack off unless there's something wrong and you can tell us when you want to talk. whatever it is, there will be no grounding or anything. Just talkin, mother to daughter." something like that
and end it openly as if she can answer or go up to her room.
and just wait
if she starts picking at her clothes, face, or hair, take her shopping and let her pick out things that fits under your ideas and hers. See if things change. I think i talk too much. Sorry if i bored you.
2007-01-08 13:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her ask her whats wrong?
2007-01-08 13:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋