My g/f has had some bad experiences with love and how can I tell when she is ready??
2007-01-08 12:40:18 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was raped 6 months ago and has been through counsuling. Should I just wait until she is practically ripping my shirt off or believe her when she says she is ready to have sex?? What do I do??
2007-01-08 12:41:15 · update #1
I told her I would wait forever and do anything for her. SHe says she really wants to. What can I do to help her??
2007-01-08 12:44:22 · update #2
I think her friend is telling her that I will leave if I don't get any. Why??
2007-01-08 12:45:35 · update #3
this is a really serious question. you will not get any right answers here for this, the fact that you are on answers for this subject suggests that you are not able to handle your girlfriends current situation.The only thing I can say is be patient VERY patient with your girlfriend she must have been through hell. and you dont come back from there on a bus or in a taxi. time heals all wounds.... do you love her enough to give her the time she needs????
2007-01-08 12:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bren0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, don't force her into anything.
The main thing would be to ask her if that is really something she wants to do at the moment.
Also, these are just my religious beliefs but I don't believe that anyone should have sex till they are married, I know that kinda sounds like a pain in the butt but really you are better off that way because then you don't carry baggage into your next physical relationship, also, statistics have proven that the best sex is when you are married and when you have known each other for a long time, I again know that this sounds like a pain in the butt but you are better off waiting.
PS plus when u do get married, you don't have to tell your wife why you didn't wait for her if you wait.
2007-01-08 20:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Stacers 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would advice you not to question, push, or make any suggestions to that matter til she is ready. And you will know when she is ready, she will tell you.. Give her all the time she needs..and if you really love her, you will wait patiently, keeping her and yourself busy physically in other things which will make you both happy spirit. Good Luck.
2007-01-08 20:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until she is ready my brother. If you try anything, it may make her remember about her bad experiences. So what i am saying is wait until the right time, wait until she rips off your shirt.
2007-01-08 20:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ravie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when shes ready shell come to you don't push if you really love her and understand the complexity's of being raped can do to a women sense of self with patience understanding and counseling you both can work through this together. i wish you the best of day ahead I'm so sorry that your loved one had to go through such a terrible thing find a little piece of strength each day.Little at a time.
2007-01-08 20:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by resigned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait! I'm so glad that you actually consider her feelings I can tell that bye the sound of your question that you love her or at lease are a good guy. OK so really wait. One day she's going to see everything you've done for her.
OK so Good Luck and Best Wishes!
Betty
2007-01-08 20:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait, and be as patient as possible. she needs you to be understanding and to trust you. when she is truly ready she will tell you. and she may say she's ready and then at the last minute change her mind. you need to be ready for this and respect her decisions. the healing process is often a long one and as long as you're supportive and do not pressure her. i'm sure she'll come around in time.
2007-01-08 20:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by lilfuzzyducky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With what has happend to her i think i would let her start to make the move on you so she can control how fast or slow things will go and if she tells you to stop then plz do as she ask what she went threw im sure was very dramatic for her plz support her the best you can...
2007-01-08 20:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mafia6969 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she wants you to do. Don't just say "Are you ready?". Tell her you feel that even if she says she is ready, she might not be. Tell her you will go through a therapy session with her if she wants.
2007-01-08 20:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by mmpietropinto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. I would wait for her to make the first move. She might think shes really but all the sudden change her mind so let her take the first step just to be sure.
2007-01-08 20:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by jesusrocks4life2003 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋