I've done the nice guy thing my whole life and have gotten nowhere with women. All it has gotten me is totally inexperinced at age 34. Yep, I'm a virgin and although some people think that is noble of me I think it sucks. Now I'm not the type to go for a prostitute because that would be admitting I'm a total failure and I'm still a sesitive guy. But since any women I am likely to be with has already 'played' the field I just don't think it's fair that I don't. I held out because I thought it was right but other than religious people (which I am not) no one else has (it's even being promoted by college professors, sexperts, and feminists to be promiscuis) and I feel cheated so I am going to try and erase my sensitive side and, being as careful of disease as possible, go out and attempt to be as promiscous as everybody else is. So, is this a bad idea? Should I just continue to be nice guy who gets none or what?
2007-01-08 12:32:13 · 12 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hon it's not about being a nice guy.It's about being with someone that u want to make love to.My son is 18 and he is not a nice guy but he is still a virgin.His words to me were that all he has met is whores and when he finds someone he really likes then he'll take action. Now adays u need to be really careful. With aids people don't realize that condoms break.I think your life is worth more then that. I say look at it in the way that when u find someone u want to make love to then go for it.Good luck
2007-01-08 12:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't be a sheep! I'd be willing to be that more than half the people on here are just bleating sheep doing what they are told or doing something because someone else has done it. Screw that, if you have made it this far good for you.
If I were you I would start seriously looking but I wouldn't go trying to get laid or anything, there are a lot of ho's out there and a lot more diseases. Staying single is probably the happiest thing a person can do. I think you have it right.
2007-01-08 20:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you really hold out because you are saving it for whoever or are you just not blessed in certain areas? Are you that shy that you can not get intimate with a girl? I don't think that I would be complaining about the girls having experience because you don't so, somebody is going to have to know what to do. Have you tried anything with a girl? Everybody needs a little game. This might not be great advice but, it true. The nice guy thing is long gone. It's great to be a nice guy but, not when it comes to that. We want the guy to take charge and want to be with us. Everybody wants to be wanted. You need to get out there and get you some candy before you lose it.
2007-01-08 20:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself! ask yourself > Do I really like being a nice guy ? (not the negativeness which precludes.) Am I proud that I am noble ( or any other words (< [words, are emotions] that are good that come from being a nice guy)
I know where you are coming from, been there, done that. Every one said I was to picky and that I would never find the girl of my dreams. Guess I'll never know. Since I lowered myself and went nasty, just to get pussy.
lowered is bad--- lowered self esteem, lowered integrity, lowered convictions, lowered humanity, lowered self love and love of others. lowered self respect-- who cares what others thought-- Its worse on yourself than what others say about you. For they (others) just say out of spite, selfishness, uncaring, and just go away while you still have to live with it. They (others don't even care anymore or even think about it. { BTW all that, is the way you will become if you give in.
I have found that no matter how insignificant or magnificent you feel you are, that their are others who feel the same way-- have been there--- or are there.
Hold out bubba--- God will bless you for it. And if you don't believe in god, than think , Karma
2007-01-08 21:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by pa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's impossible to erase your sensitive side and become a "bad boy." You are who you are. That being said, if you want to have sex, then why not? Doing so will not make you "bad." I wouldn't go the prostitute route for obvious reasons, but there is no need for you to suffer and over-analyze this. Just make sure whatever you decide is what you REALLY want, and not just what you think is the normal macho thing to do. Good luck!
2007-01-09 02:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is a beautiful thing for a guy to be innocent dont change just let an experienced girl show you the ropes and you will be alright. there are some girls in the world that think that the bad boy image is played out. be you always
2007-01-08 20:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by mz.alayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must feel like your missing out then since everyone promotes it. Don't do this just because everyone else says you should. If it's not who you are, if it's not what you really want to be then don't do it. Maybe you should wait unttil it actually means something to you than just sex to do it.
2007-01-08 20:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by Angel_Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW ur 34 & ur a virgin? .. i think thats not a bad thing...ur waitin for the right woman..whats wrong with that? hopefully someday SOON u'll meet her!! & im sure she'll appreciate u waited.
Best of luck to u.
Mz.Alayne - good point!
2007-01-08 20:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Cr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a nice guy going bad is a good this cause bad boys are hotter
2007-01-08 20:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by K Teal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time that you change something about yourself!
You have to initiate with women asap! Don't be afraid to take chances, get messy ad make mistakes!
You are way past your due date on this one.
2007-01-08 20:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋