my brother is going to iraq?

Question

what can i do?
i am inpieces and he is the only one i rilly have!!
if anything happened to him i would die!!

any suggestions!!

i wish the pres. wud call out all us troops and let them come home

he is in the marines so that makes it a little better because the marines have had less people die vs. the army navy or ng

Answer 1

My husband left for his 3rd tour in Iraq on Jan 4th. My best advice to you would be pray and try to stay strong for him. If he is worrying about you it will make the deployment even harder on him. No deployment is easy and you will always have fears and questions. There will be days that are harder than others and it will be important to have support for those days, weather they come from a family support group, friends, family, etc. You brother's FRG leaders should be able to help you find a support group to help you through the time. Deployments are hard but I you can make it. Be strong and constantly remind your brother of your love and support for him. Soldiers love emails and packages but they cherish the hand written letters and pics the most. Write him a letter every week that way you can let him know what is going on with you and you can feel closer to him. My husbands last tour I wrote 2 letters a week and he loved every word. I know this seems scary but you will make it through. My prayers are with you and your brother.

best wishes

Answer 2

I'm sure your brother must have joined the marines in the first place because he was willing to serve his country in an honorable fashion. Make sure to be supportive of his decision. Find out what he does, who he works with, that kind of thing.

When my brother was deployed, one of the things he said really helped him and his unit was the letters from home. Try and write at least 1 or 2 times a week, as it's a real morale booster. I even got friends to write letters so my brother could give them to his unit members that didn't really get any mail.
Also, if it's allowed, care packages from home dont hurt either. We would send a box every few weeks with favorite magazines, a newspaper, small bags of chips and goodies etc.

Answer 3

Try to calm down. My husband (Air Force) was deployed to the desert for 5 1/2 months and it was no picnic. I worried, cried, prayed, etc. but he came home safely. I am now praying he doesnt have to go back anytime soon but if he does I know we'll get through it though I doubt our daughter will understand.

It's not a death sentence so try and look at it from his point of view. Be supportive. This is something that he wants to do (be in the military). Now maybe he didn't choose to go to the desert but he did choose the lifestyle and the possibility is always there.

Try to be positive around your brother. Let him know how proud you are of him and how you will support him no matter what. That's what he needs from you right now. He needs you to be his proud little sister.

Make sure you write to him and send care packages w/ pictures.

You'll get through this. :)

I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Geez, quit thinking so negative. The last thing he needs is for family freaking out at home...do you work well or do well in school with lots of stuff on your mind? Well, imagine being thousands of miles from home having to complete potentially dangerous missions. He needs you to be strong, write a lot of letters, and most of all, support him and his buddies!

Answer 5

Just remember, he is trying to survive everyday, but you are just trying to live. I lived through a 16 month deployment while my fiance was in Iraq.
Send him a lot of care packages, and little trinket to remind him that you are thinking of him. Get in volved with the family support group that is connected with his company.
I won't tell you to not worry, because that doesn't help.
Stay strong, you will make it through.

Answer 6

He's better off because the Marine death toll is less than the Army? Are you serious?

Answer 7

There's nothing you can do but pray for him every day, write letters/send packages so he knows you are thinking of him, leave him with something he can carry around with him to think of you and remember that he loves you and is fighting for you every day. Good luck sweetie, and tell your brother I say good luck and thank you for serving.

~Elizabeth

Answer 8

I have a very close friend over there, I can tell you this keep the
faith cause it is all you have. I know it is very hard not to worry.
you need to belive that God will keep him safe from harm. my friend will be home soon and my prayer are here for your brother.
take care .

Answer 9

hey dont worry he was trained by the worlds finest, The MARINES, we prepare all our marines for the worst, send lots of letters supporting him all times.

Answer 10

There is nothing you can do other than give him all the support you can while voting against those who sent him there in the first place.