Ive been with my boyfriend for 4.5months...i havent doen anything with him...no hand jobs, no fingering to me, nothing. Wrestling on the ground and making out is about it. We are both in college, 18 n 19...ive been tempted to do stuff, but i always chicken out, n now i never find the opportunity or either 1 of us just doesnt find the mood perfect/exciting enough like the other times ive felt...i want to do something but i dont. Im willing to lose my virginity to him, but should i just wait for the mood? Am i being a chicken? How can I spark a mood? Am I being prude? Is this normal for a first time?
2007-01-08 11:46:00 · 27 answers · asked by Jiphire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
losing your virginity just to spice up a relationship is not the answer. sex, regardless of all the hype, is a great thing if it's shared between two people with mutual feelings. dont do something you think you might regret later on. being in a realtionship doesnt mean you have to get physically intimate; if you'd like to spice things up, do things out of the ordinary, like taking a long drive together, have dinner at the beach, etc etc. a great relationship consists of mutual feelings, understanding, and companionship--not necessarily sex. sex shouldn't always be the answer. you're not being a prude...you're just in a tough situation. but it shouldnt be tough. if you love the guy and feel that there is something more to the relationship, then by all means show him that you love him; but if you're having doubts or are hesitating, maybe you should reconsider your decision. either way, i hope it makes you happy. dont forget, use rubber ;] good luck!
2007-01-08 11:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by xeternal_heavnx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I believe in abstinence until marriage. And at your age I wouldn't be concerned about your virginity quite yet. Fingering and hand jobs that's one thing but having intercourse...that's an entirely different thing. So I think you should just wait.
2007-01-08 11:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cyborg Farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the right moment. There is nothing wrong with you. You will know when it is right for you. Don't rush it. Your not a prude. Just relax, enjoy the relationship and have fun.
2007-01-08 11:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are thinking about this WAY too much. You need to calm down and relax. If he isn't putting severe pressure on you then don't worry so much. If you just kick back and let things happen I'm sure you will get everything you've ever wanted in life.
FP
2007-01-08 11:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal and please wait for the right time for YOU not for him. I think all women regardless of what they will admit were a little scared the first time and many even regret who they lost their virginity to, I know I sure do.
2007-01-08 11:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are more normal than you think. it always surprises me how normal people think they are the only one, and weirdos think they are normal.
it is just a personal suggestion, but you could f*ck w/o f*cking I mean get into the bed him naked you with just your panties and hump. it is not losing your virginity "technically" and fun. I'm pretty sure most people actually do this before having sex I did.
2007-01-08 11:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by michael H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have done it when you were both in the mood, now you may not be attracted to him as much. Maybe your just not in love as much as you used to be?
2007-01-08 11:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Joshua D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best to wait till you know its right. maybe the mood isnt right because you dont want it to be. Just think about it.
2007-01-08 11:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be nervous about your first time. My advice would be not to try to make it happen to hard. When the right time presents itself, both you and your boyfriend will know.
2007-01-08 11:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by guest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait until it happen naturally, If you do not it will feel forced and less satisfying. Wait till you both want to naturally and have more feelings for one another.
2007-01-08 11:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋