Why are women 35 - 50 so mean, they think they rule the earth or something(college guy at restaurant)?

Question

They always come in being so picky, having so much demand, and seem to always have a chip on their shoulder. I know some college buddies who "tamper" with their food, but i am not that cold hearted. Wages suck so bad it's not even worth doing stuff for them, but pays for bills in college. One day i will freak out and throw their food on the ground after they pay and walk out.

Answer 1

I used to work at a big box retail store. I also seemed to notice that women in that age group were among the most difficult to deal with--not that the men were any easier. Believe me, they gave me their share of trouble, too.

I've also noticed that women in that age group are the ones that have the biggest chips on their shoulders about men, too. Weird.

Someone suggested menopause. That could be part of it. But unless I'm wrong, women don't typically hit menopause until their early fifties.

Maybe they are just cranky because they feel they are getting older. Many of them probably have young kids. They could see you and be reminded of their younger years, and feel they wasted them, want them back or whatever.

Or...maybe it's just something to do with that generation.

Or...maybe it's just the women that live in your particular area.

I'm not trying to make excuses for them...don't get me wrong. I'm just trying to think of ideas.

Good luck. And maybe someday people like that will drop off the face of the planet.

Answer 2

Haha I honestly think maybe that can be true because I feel that when I get older I will be moody and mean. I think maybe when they were younger they always got ticked off and maybe didn't have the best experiences with people especially the opposite sex. About the food tampering that's not nice there is no need for that if you don't like the job you should leave I mean I know it's not you but don't stoop down that level. Good luck and don't take things personal and or maybe you can try and flirt with them maybe that might make them happy.

Answer 3

Not all women that age are mean. Any time you deal with the public, you will encounter rude people with a chip on their shoulder. In my area, retirees think they own everything and want to boss everyone around. Tampering with food is a bad idea and reduces your friends to being as bad as those women only in a different way.
Maybe this will help. You only have to deal with those women for how long a period in one setting? ( Twenty minutes, an hour? ) Why give them power over your attitude and outlook and why let them ruin your day. If you just can't deal with them, maybe you should look for a different working environment.

Answer 4

I'm a 41 year old woman I'm not mean.I always say please and thank you to my servers.I tip well even when I feel service could have been better.I know waiters and waitresses work hard no matter their age.I also realize I'm not the only person in an establishment when I go out so if I have to wait a reasonable amount of time for my order or a mistake is made I try to be understanding.People are just more rude nowdays.That's sad but I don't know why.

Answer 5

I'm 48 and I am very appreciative of decent service. I treat others as I am treated and don't think that all "older" women are crabby. Maybe they had a bad day or they have issues with their relationship, bodies or teens or bosses. Not many people in our society treat mature women with respect unless they're elderly. Oftentimes, women in their 40's and 50's feel "invisible" unless they are hot looking. What's that say about society? I'll bet your mom is in that age bracket and someday your sisters and daughter will be too. Rise above any of the harpiness and just be your best. That's truly what counts - people have issues and I don't care if they are men or women - it's rampant. Happy New Year though! :)

Answer 6

Well I am 42 so I guess I can answer this question, lol. Some people are just bitter and want to take their frustrations out on others. People who are bitter, well a waiter/waitress, a cashier in a store, well these are easy targets for bitter people. They know that they can be mean and well think that the person on the receiving end has to take it. But please its not just women in this age group. There are smart alec young people as well. It falls back on the very old saying, " You cut someone else down to maker yourself look bigger." This is with anyone who is bitter, insecure and just mad at the world and wants to lash out at Innocent people. Unfortunately when you have to deal with " John Q Public" you will have to put up with rudeness.

Answer 7

I wouldn't say all women are like that, but I do understand what you are trying to say. I had to waitress for a couple of nights in December, and on my first day, one of the ladies was so arrogant. She wasn't that bad, but she had this weird attitude. Like I went up to her and asked he if she needed anything else, then she replied "Do I need anything else? hahahahaha!" She just laughed at me and I didn't and still don't understand what was so funny. Some people just feel like they are at the top of social status, and need to get real. Some people think that they can get away without using their manners and that isn't true. The next day the people that I served were from older teenagers to very elderly. They all were very polite and nice. It is just how you are brought up and how you plan to use your manners. Thank goodness for the nice people! lol I wouldn't generalize.

Answer 8

I can't speak for all women, only myself (age 40). I'm not demanding but I do tend to be picky about some things and I think it's just because I know what I want and how I want it, however, I'm not going to be rude if it's not perfect.

Answer 9

I am sorry you are facing such difficult customers.

I am a woman, and I'm 50. I don't think I'm mean. I try to be nice- I get more cooperation when I am nice to people. I sometimes feel as if I am invisible and clerks and waiters don't see me. I don't like to be overlooked. I don't mind waiting my turn, but it would be nice if my presence were acknowledged. (But, I digress!)

These women may be compensating for their past experiences. They are being bold and "assertive." My advice-continue to do what you are doing- kill them with kindness. If you get a particularly cranky customer, can you call your manager to help?

Answer 10

You are going to have a hard life if you don't learn to shake off that crap. Who cares about those customers, just give them their damn food and forget they exist, as far as food tampering, if I ever found out some punk did that to me, that punk would go to jail. think before you act.