This is driving me insane! I know I shouldnt get involved and it's none of my business but my friend is too dependent to stand up for herself and neogiate with her mom or make her own decisions! I find it hard to have any fun with her at her house, since it's always "My mom would kill me if I listened to that" "My mom doesn't let me do this for over half an hour" "My mom says we have to be in bed by 10:00" "My mom would get mad if we snuck downstairs." And I'm not looking for a lecture, but what should I do about this situation? P.S. We are both 13.
2007-01-08 11:23:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom is a good parent but her mom is overprotective and she would like more freedom but she is always afraid to ask for it
2007-01-08 11:30:50 · update #1
Sorry hun, theres really nothing you can do about it. Every parent chooses their way of bringing up their children. Some parents may be real easy going, and others more tough. But bottom line, most choose to be strict in their rules out of love, not to make the children suffer. You may not understand that right now, but one day, i promise you will.
2007-01-08 11:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a difficult situation for all of you. I bet the Mom may not realize just how many rules she may have, and your friend doesn't know any different, and you have to respect the rules in their house, like it or not. I think I would have her over to your house, more than go over there. I mean, if things are good at your home, and there are some rules, structure, but not having your Mom standing over you, or telling you what to do, then have more time at your house and also find some things the two of you can do outside of your homes. Do you like to bowl? Any sports? Do things together, like even go for a walk or a bike ride(depending upon the weather and where you live) and it'll be better for both of you. I hope this helps!!! : ) Have fun! Good luck!
2007-01-08 11:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to trust you a little more but until your 18 there is not much you can do... You can always make accounts behind her back if she has a thing where she checks your history on the internet try public computers tell her you have to go to the library to do some home work (not recommended.)
2016-05-23 15:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Marlyss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 13 nd i do alot of stuff my mom doesnt know about tell her 2 take a chance i did it was the best thing i ever did.i stay up till 5am an nights i have 2 work the next day
2007-01-08 11:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Avril 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think should should say to your friend, "Could you talk to your Mom about the rules in your family? you are 13 and not that young anymore. You should neogiate with your mom". But say it in a nice way and not harshly! I am 13 and my BF is the same way. I told my best friend that she should talk to her mom and it totally worked. She went from watching G to PG-13 in just one discussion. Try it, it seriously will change your friendship!
2007-01-08 11:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Repeat these words: "I know I shouldn't get involved and it's none of my business..." They are your words, so you already know.
There is a reason that 13-year-olds don't run the world, and your parenting expertise is based on .....? You don't know anything about this mother and the reasons for her philosophy. Really, this is mostly just about how this mother affects YOU, not your friend.
2007-01-08 11:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So instead of your friend listening to her mother you want her to listen to YOU, right?
Do not follow your mom's rules, do what I want you to do.
Your friend's mom is trying to raise a DECENT young girl and not some tricked out little ho.
Go hang with someone your own speed.
2007-01-08 11:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥~Gemma~♥ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your friend should leave you alone because her Mother is trying to raise her daughter to be a good and responsible adult.
There should be more parents like her Mother.
At 13 I wonder where are your parents...
2007-01-08 11:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She is 13 her mother has every RIGHT to "run" her life. If you don't like it don't go to her house anymore. I'm sure her mother wouldn't be all that heartbroken if you didn't.
2007-01-08 11:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u respect youre friend i'd think that youd respect her mom and her behaviors. If not youre not her friend. "Running" is spelt wrong kiddo!lol
2007-01-08 11:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by fun fun fun .... you know the rest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋