"family meeting"...?

Question

ok well my mom just came in and was like we r gonna have a family meeting when i get back from the store. she said its b/c of not doing chores and stuff. well she said that cause i don't do my "chores" for over weeks at a time that she wants a family meeting. why would she want a family meeting anyway? she said that she knos she dosn't follow thru wit disciplene but i should still follow the rules. i don't care about rules and never will, why is she doing this to me? she is being so mean.

my favorite show comes on in like 30 min and thats when shes coming back. im like gonna miss my show if i go to the stupid meeting.

im 13, and ya i don't follow rules anyhwhere not skool not home not anywhere. i almost cussed out a teacher at skool cause she was telling me wat to do today but i stopped myself.

she DOSN'T cook i cook for myself cause she isn't here half the nites out of the week.

Answer 1

What goes around, comes around .. and like another poster .. wait until YOU have children .. the will be FAR, FAR Worse because you have NOT learned responsibility for your BEHAVIORS at this time.

CONTRIBUTING to the FAMILY by doing chores is a PART of ALL LIVES .. and your MOTHER is NOT your SLAVE (Servant) ...

IF you treat her as a HUMAN Being ... respect her and the house rules, you will REAP the BENEFITS of being able to be a successful adult in life. IF you continue on at the way you are now .. I fear for you (and this is exactly what your mother is thinking).

It is FAR BETTER now for you to STOP being a petulant whiner and sit down, and START doing homework, chores, listening to your teachers in school, and help out by being cooperative and paying attention to details. This is the LEARNING experience that all young teens need -- for if this experience is not taken at this time .. I can assure you (as both a Long Term Single Parent and a Supervisor of young people before I retired) .. that there is NO WAY you are ever going to be able to hold a job or even land employment IF you can NOT cooperate, do your work, or listen/help out.

YOU need to care about rules .. that is what ADULTS do in life. They LIVE by rules .. rules at work, rules of the road when they drive, rules on what happens when the checks bounce (are unpaid), rules on bill payments, and rules on the job. They work with others, and for others. They live in a home where everyone needs to contribute, and not just one individual carry the ENTIRE LOAD. They know the value of an education (especially if they neglected that when younger), and want the BEST for their children.

I think you really need to turn off the TV right now and THINK about what I said ... and make a RESOLUTION RIGHT NOW to HELP OUT around the home, to cooperate with the house rules, to RESPECT your mother and teachers, and do everything possible to START CARING!

Answer 2

A family meeting sounds like a good idea!! Maybe even some counselling on your behalf. She is not being mean to you at all, my kids are 9 and 10 and they have chores, it builds a sense of self respect and responsibility. If you don't start caring about rules now....it's your future. This is only the start for you and from here it goes on to breaking the law. Time to grow up and take responsibility for your actions and help your mom out a little, I mean let's face it when u move out on your own, mommy isn't gonna follow to clean up after you. Stop acting like a spoiled little brat, and start appreciating and respecting your mom cause she is the only mom you're ever gonna have and one day she's going to be gone, then it will be too late for you to show her what she really means to you. Set some goals for yourself and straighten your life out before it's too late for you.

Answer 3

Sorry, honey, but you're being whiny and irrational. Not caring about rules doesn't always make you an admirable rebel - it often just makes you a spoiled brat. You are a member of the family, and therefore are obligied to participate in the family.

Think about how your parents provide you with food, clothing, shelter, and even internet access... it is unreasonable to expect that you reciprocate by doing some chores? If you sincerely feel their demands and their rules are truly unreasonable, then this family meeting is your opportunity to present your argument and make your point. Offer some fair, rational solutions; listen attentively when others speak; and hold your temper.

Answer 4

I can tell you're really young just by what you just said, and the reason why she's doing all this, is because she wants to teach you responsibility. You don't learn how to obey rules at home and you don't like rules, you'll never keep a job, you'll never have anything. Follow their rules until you get out of their house. Then you'll have enough "responsiblity" to fill the Atlantic ocean and you'll be too deep into your own problems, rules, and responsibility, and you'll thank your mother for having all those rules and letting you stay in her house rent free. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 5

You don't care about rules and never will ? Grow up! What if she decided not to cook your food or wash your clothes? What if she decided that she did not have to buy you clothes or pay the electric bill?

And you might miss your favorite show because of a family meeting? Boo hoo! You are breaking my heart -- you are so abused!!!!!

Answer 6

historical kinfolk values. women folk have been oftentimes in cost of the enjoyed ones and raising the toddlers. they are against gay couples because of the fact a kinfolk is "meant" to be a father, mom, and youngsters. no longer 2 fathers or 2 mothers. i might wager that it began in early biblical situations, while they first got here up with the anti homosexuality ingredient. however the girls raising the toddlers and stuff replaced into probable when you consider that waaaaaaay back in historic previous.

Answer 7

I think you should print this and seal it up, have your mom give it back to you in like 20 years when your child is your age, and dosent care about rules....you will atleast get a good laugh!! Im sure shes not being mean...she just wants you to Grow up!!!

Answer 8

that happens with my family alot. dont worry, im lazy 2. u can try harder though. if u dont thats ok, but even i know thaat slacking doesn't help with anything in life. be happy shes not very strict on discipline. my mom is. shes just concerned for u, and someday, u'll end up being an adult on ur own. start a habit of working hard. trust me, itll help!

Answer 9

Is she so mean to ask you to do things around the house? There is nothing wrong with you helping out (and learning) around your house. Eventually you'll have kids yourself. Check this out....history repeats itself.....time and time again.........if you're mean to your mother.....then watch out.....your kids are going to be mean to you also......remember, you heard it here first......I've seen it time and time again. Don't be lazy, or cop an attitude....just do the stuff you mom wants you to do......life would be so much more easier on both of you. Good thing you're not my daughter......be thankful for that.

Answer 10

She is just trying to prepare for the future.
There are always things as an adult that needs to be done and noone wants to do.
Deal with it.