I told him I was thinking about trying out...I haven't played a sport in years and years...and he told me he didn't want me to, and when I asked him why not, he said he doesn't want me going places all the time. He told me no. I told him that the practices are during school hours, so it's not like he'd be missing out on much time with me. Why doesn't he want me going places and doing it, I really wanted to...what should I do??
2007-01-08 11:15:30 · 27 answers · asked by Holly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should do what's best foryou....he's probably telling you no because he's insecure about you meeting other people and so forth. He needs to be supportive of you. Also, u could look at it this way. If you two are supposed to be "supportive" of eachother, how is he supporting something that could be alot of fun and a great opportunity for you? If he really trusts you and believes in the two of you....you having color guard should not get in the way of that.
2007-01-08 11:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by kristina807 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I can understand him voicing his concerns but to "TELL" you no; girlfriend, wake up! He is controlling (or trying to) you. There is nothing WRONG in "going places" ! Shoot, if I had an opportunity to do what I want like you are wanting, I would definetly give a try. Invite him to come along when can to see it's not all that bad. Sounds like he either doesn't trust you, scared of losing you or starting to be a DO Nothing. Love the time I have with my man but I as him, NEEDS space and time from each other. Talk to him and try to resolve this but don't give up on something you may never get the chance to do again. Don't let him " tell" you no and leave it at that... going places all the time IS NOT a good enough reason not to! You go girlfriend!!
2007-01-08 11:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by GardenGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? If your boyfriend is like this imagine him down the road first what sport you can or can not do, next its the way you can wear your hair. I am sure you are young still in high school.. I am 21 years old and wish I had done more in high school rather than run after some boy do yourself a favor ditch him and join the color guard!!! Enjoy yourself and your life do what you want to do!! you have time for that relationship crap later!!! you are only that age once and I promise you high school is the best time you will have in you life!! don't let anyone ruin it for you!!
2007-01-08 11:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hypnotic Cherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he really cares about you, he would let you. Especially if it doesn't cut into your time with him. Don't let anyone stop you from doing any kind of sport in school. Trust me, you'll regret it later. I'm going to be 23 in February, and wish I had done more sports in high school. Because now I'm overweight, but not a ton, and because I have asthma, it would have helped me in the long run. Plus you will feel good about yourself. If he is already this controlling, I would tell him "BYE, BYE!" I don't let anyone push me around. I'm married and have a 2 1/2 year old, and I'm the boss in the family. Hope that helps!
2007-01-08 11:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont let you?!?
Here's what you do... Tell him you are joining. No asking. If he pulls that 'wont let you' garbage, smile at him like he told a funny joke and backhand him as hard as you can! Then tell him if he wants obedience he should get a dog.
Actually, leave out the smile and the slap and just use the line about the dog. Men like that grow up to be pompous blowhards who think they are the gift to womankind. Put him in his place now and save the next girl a little trouble.
Beware of every guy who tries to imitate his dad and 'lay down the law' to women because he will never see you as a person who should be valued, just a tool to fulfill his needs at the expense of your own.
2007-01-08 11:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is insecure with himself, and that he is afraid that if you go places, without him, you are going to want to be with other people and dump his butt. However, he is a boyfriend, not your husband, not any family member like a Mom or Dad who is telling you this is not a good thing for you to do, get it? So he is trying to control you, and that's not a good thing! I was drawn to controlling people all of my life, listened and did what others wanted me to, for years as that is what I grew up in and that's all I knew and felt comfortable with. However I can tell you now, I wasted a lot of time doing what others wanted me to do, and not what I wanted to do!!!! So go and try out for the color guard, sports team, cheerleading, travel, do things, you are but passing through this age but once. Have fun and don't worry about him!It's not about HIM, it is about YOU and what you WANT!
2007-01-08 11:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is missing out and has no idea how much fun this could be for him too. I had a girlfriend on the color squad and I got to hang around with all the other girls on the same team everywhere they went. I became very good friends with all the girls and all my guy friends couldn't believe that I had so many women friends that would do anything for me, at any time, for any reason (true friends). I never cheated on my girlfriend with any of them, and everything was great for both of us. She had fun and so did I. Show him this!!
2007-01-08 11:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by mister 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not your boss. He sounds like he's controlling. Be careful. This could be a sign he may be controlling on other things as well. Do not let him control what you can and can not do. It's not like you're asking to go out to some bar and get drunk. You're asking him to join color guard. If he's going to say no to something like that, then I'm not really fond of him. plus...who the hell does he think he is? your father?
2007-01-08 11:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by soulaira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any TRUE friend - romantic, as in boy/girlfriend, or just a platonic "friend" friend - will help you be the best version of yourself you can be. This person in your life sounds like he wants to place limits on what you can be, and even worse, he's doing it for selfish reasons, not because he's concerned about you or what would be best for you. Do you really need someone like this in your life, telling you what to do? I know it sounds difficult, but you will ultimately be happier and healthier if you find a guy who wants you to be the best you you can be. This one just wants you to be the you HE wants you to be. I think it's time to move on....
2007-01-08 11:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by Poopy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard, but anyone who wants to limit your life in this way is only thinking of himself and isn't worth much. He is simply manipulating you and controlling you. If he truly liked you or loved you, he would want you to be happy and reach your potential. Not stick around and make you hang out with him. Sounds like a control freak to me and I think I'd run as fast as I can in the opposite direction.
2007-01-08 11:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by CG 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋