Mature 15 yr. old young adult involved with a 20yr old?

Question

Look I dont know why I am asking you this question. I expect to hear that he is mentally stable and mature and blah blah blah... And that I am still young and he's a pedophile. Yes I am aware of all these things.. but what do think..



AND SINCE ADULTS ARE SO MATURE......PLEASE NO NAME CALLING, BAD MOUTHING OR VULGAR LANGUAGE. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

THE QUESTION WAS: DO YOU THINK THERES A PROBLEM WITH THIS!

We both reside in N.Y. and I believe age of consent is 16 or 17....but my mother got with my father @ 15 and he was 22. They are married now!

Answer 1

I'm sorry. I couldn't write anything useful without using vulgar language or name calling.

Answer 2

You seem to think you already have all the answers you need, but my 15 year old who thought she had all the answers had a child by a 20 year old at 16. She found out after she had been married to him for 3 months, at her fathers insistence, that he had impregnated another 15 year old a month after their wedding. She was in the process of divorcing him before her child was born. Her son turned 13 before she was 30 and she has raised him alone with no child support. His father wound up fathering 6 children with 15 year old girls and hasn't provided support for any of them. He has spent time in jail, lost his license, doesn't file taxes, works under the table and still lives with his mother with no visible means of support to avoid paying child support. My grandson is now 16 and can't remember the last time he heard from his father and has no desire to hear from him. The only reason he didn't go to jail for child molestation, is the California law requires the girls to file rape charges against the guy if they are over age 14-most won't because they "love" him.

Answer 3

Because although you're a mature 15 yr old, you can't really say that you're at the same place because you haven't experienced the next 5 years yet. Between 15 and 20....alot of events occur in your life... He's presumably in college already...you have no clue what that's like. Life is alot different in college vs HS...something you don't realize until you're there yourself. :)

Honestly though, the verbage in your question itself shows that you really aren't THAT mature and you sound like your age, 15. There's nothing wrong with that but it doesn't sound like an adult.

Answer 4

a baby. relatively, a teenager yet i'm in simple terms dealing with your question. you're formally an person while your 18, yet I evaluate everybody between 18 with the aid of their 20's youthful adults. Brains are not even totally progressed until you're 25, so how are you able to be a "authentic" person in case you at the instant are not totally progressed yet? and don't take offense to while human beings call you "youngster," this is a time era human beings use to describe youthful human beings and this happens to human beings of their 20s and in keeping with possibility even early 30s. And being a "youngster" is amazingly mind-blowing and that i don't understand why everyones constantly in this manner of hurry to improve up. there is a lot time to be a grown-up! in simple terms a little while to be a baby.

Answer 5

Well I am not going to tell you that true love can't be discovered if your only 15 it can. I will tell you that I was mature, very mature, I had to grow up very quickly, when I was a kid, but Love that is the HARDEST 4 letter word in the dictionary. Love is one of those things that you know you feel. It took me 25 years to find my soul mate. So when you are thinking about love think about the other word SOUL MATE
Good luck

Answer 6

Dude I dont care about 5 yrs difference when its legal. But 15 and 20 is not okay, regardless of how mature you are. Find someone your own age. Most 20 yr old guys are busy trying to get in the pants of someone their own age... if hes after a 15 yr old, he probably got shot down by the people his age. Don't do it!

Answer 7

Even more problematic than you being young...you don't say in what state you live, but if you begin sleeping with this man, he may be guilty of statutory rape. Look it up!

And as somebody else said, very, very few stable, sane, normal 20-year-old men would be interested in a teenage girl.

EDIT: Since you seem to need to have it spelled out for you, YES, THERE'S A PROBLEM WITH IT!

Answer 8

I'm sure you've heard it before, but its just too much of an age gap. He wants different things from a relationship than you. And he's been through so much more. Try to waait or find someone your age.

Answer 9

I think it would be ok if you were at least 18 and he was 23. It is illegal because you are not considered an adult. He could got to jail for statuatory rape if you two had sex and your parents wanted to press charges.

Answer 10

You're like most 15 year olds.....you really don't what to know what someone else thinks....you just want them to OK something you want to do.

You said yourself what everybody is going to say...and you're right.

He has a problem because 20 year old men don't want to date 15 year old girls.

That's the bottom line.

Answer 11

hun, by law he is too old for you, but by heart he is not. you need to take it slow and make sure he is not just after sex. make sure he does feel for you. and no matter how young or old you are maturity is a hard thing to come by, unless you have lived in a terrrible life. but be careful and make sure it is true. it is alright by some ppl and not by others.