I've had to put her in time out for being disrespectful to my mother(her grandmother) then she went and told a big lie to her father. She won't stop throwing things on the ground. We went shopping today with my mother and she threw a big tantrum. I had to spank her twice. This just happened today. What should I do?
2007-01-08 11:00:08 · 8 answers · asked by OH MY GOD IT'S HER 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When you spank your child it shows them violence, maybe this is your daughters way of telling you to knock it off. Find other ways of disciplining your daughter
2007-01-08 11:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
how old is she??? My 2 year old does the same thing, well except for the lying part. If she is still very young like 3 or 4 she may just be testing your limits. You got to keep strong though!!! Tell her who the boss is and reinforse your punishments no matter what. She needs to learn that you are in charge not her!!! Personally I do not agree with spankings. Then again I was also beaten as a child so.... Anyways, try some other options, hitting her will only get her more angry and she will be more diobedient then she already is if it gets to the point where she can't take it anymore. Try timeouts, or taking privilages away instead!
2007-01-08 19:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Just Call Me Mommy♥ஐ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfect example of why spanking doesn't work. You should be reading up on more effective ways of discipline and get a plan.
Spanking makes a child's behavior worse, not better. Here's why. Remember the basis for promoting desirable behavior: The child who feels right acts right. Spanking undermines this principle. A child who is hit feels wrong inside and this shows up in his behavior. The more he misbehaves, the more he gets spanked and the worse he feels. The cycle continues. We want the child to know that he did wrong, and to feel remorse, but to still believe that he is a person who has value. Check out this below.
2007-01-08 19:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 17 with three kids?
Boy you have your hands full!
How old is the daughter who's acting out? under 3... I assume?
Pretty common in that age group. I have 2 kids and did day care for 5 years. In my experience, spanking is a lot less effective than looking her right in the eyes and telling her that is totally unacceptable behavior, it will not happen again, that she will apologies to Grandma, and take a time out. Do not give in to those tantrums,(stay strong) she is testing you, the firmer you stay the more respect she'll have for you.
And you, make sure you're taking care of YOU!
Parenting is sooooo demanding, and you've got to do things to keep your sanity and stress levels in tact...long baths, walks are great cause the kids are having fun in the stroller, getting fresh air is good for everyone.Also, I like to give kids a chance to help out and be a part of the decision making team, helps them feel more responsible, and usually produces better results. Good luck to you...take care.
2007-01-08 19:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some kids that are toddler age are like this. Heres what you do. Go down to there eye level. Tell them they have been bad and what they did wrong like: "You don't throw things around like that. That is bad." And then send them to time out. Then keep them in time out one minute per year (e.g. four minutes for a four year old). After time is up return and ask them if they know what they did wrong. If they answer incorrectly tell them and give them a hug. If they answer right, give them a hug. Before trying this punishment warn them twice. If they continue then try this punishment. Be strong not stern when speaking. Don't yell. Soften when the time out is over.
2007-01-08 19:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Molly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old she is. If she is old enough to reason with (3 or 4+) then she should understand when something is wrong. Definitely she will try to push the limits every once in a while. Stay consistent. Be fair. Say what you'll do and do what you'll say. Consequences need to be immediate and appropriate to the age group. Hope this helps.
2007-01-08 19:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she?? For children under four, that sounds like common behavior. There could be a reason that she is acting out, you should try to find out why. Perhaps something has changed at home and she is acting out to show her displeasure. It could be anything, a new schedule, a new brother/sister, a new school, etc. Young children often don't know how to handle change.
2007-01-08 19:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old she is. it sounds like she's just testing her limits though.
2007-01-08 19:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by who me? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋