I'm Having troubles figuring out my destiny! Can you help me?

Question

I no I'm young and all I'm going to be 18 on January 28th and I'm having trouble deciding if i should move out or not? I'm only a Junior in high school! But i had a life back home in Bullhead City Arizona! I have a boyfriend there that we've been dating since May 06,2005 and well a good school a social life! But i come to the crossroads in life should i move out and finish school there where i want or stay here with the bullshit school that i go to! I was way popular and had a good reputation in that town and then i moved here and well it dropped to NULL like freaking seriously i want my life back! Another thing I'll be living with my boyfriend unmarried and yes i understand that its a sin but i just dont like it here in this place no more i just don't well if you can help me that would be awesome and some answers plz!

Answer 1

Don't be so sure its a sin. These are just religions control tactics. Trust me God could care less who you live with.

Change can be difficult, thing may get better rather quickly. My son just changed schools and at first he felt like he had lost all of his friends. Now he is finding some new ones and things are looking up.

Just be careful you don't get pregnant if you do move back. Use your head.

love and blessings Don

Answer 2

If you're an existentialist, there's no point asking your question on Y! You will have to ask yourself and find the answer yourself. It's true that on a universal scale humans are pretty meaningless, but then isn't everything meaningless? We are meaningless, true, but no less meaningless than anything else. So we are as important as everything else. There's no way you can be destined for bigger and better things than others because whatever you do will be as meaningless / meaningful as whatever anyone else does. Even if you turn out to be some kind of saviour, so what? ... I can drink 2 beers before passing out, so I think we're pretty much equal. As for your question: What is destiny? ... there is no such thing as destiny. We live in a deterministic universe, but we can't know the future, we can't ever 'know' what will happen because we can't ever be fully aware of all the information we'd need to know. No matter how long you think about your 'destiny' you aren't going to find it, so stop looking for 'big' things, stop trying to be 'successful', understand that we are all equal, and just relax with it. Enjoy what you can enjoy without looking for something grand in it.

Answer 3

Have you considered that maybe destiny is testing you to see just what you're capable of achieving in the new place?

Popularity in high school fades very quickly. Even if you moved back to Bullhead City, AZ you may not be as popular now as you were when you left. You can go back when you graduate or in the interim go for short visits. You'll never see most of the people you're currently attending school with now when you graduate and go on to college and start living your life.

I know it's tough but I would suggest that you stay put, concentrate on getting excellent grades and planning for your future. If you can manage to keep your grades up and work, get a part time job to occupy some of your time. Not only will you have funding for your own pursuits but you will have the opportunity to start learning what you want to do with your life. You can always volunteer and gain life and work experience.

You're young and you have your entire life ahead of you. Don't throw it away...you'll regret not standing tough and making sure that you can handle yourself in any situation.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I feel that you have no reason to be unhappy and you listen to everyone around you and take what you want to hear and leave the rest. You know you are loved but it is not good enough for you because you do not love yourself enough to learn the art of self-control or self-worth.
You sound scared and insecure so why would this be the best choice to make when it is SO drastic? You are in a fantasy world and I guess it's going to take you falling on your face to figure that out, that life is hard and you can't always get your way.

Answer 5

Supporting yourself is going to cost alot of money. Like, more than you can make if your going to high school.

If someone is not gonna support you, well then moving back is not a very good idea. Because you will be poor and hungry.

Also, in 1 1/2 years, all those friends and popularity and social life will disappear. Everyone will go their seperate ways to college etc. So if upheaving your life is worth it for basically a year go ahead.

Moving out when your still in high school is HARD HARD HARD HARD HARD... if your parents can't help support you, your pretty much screwed.

All of my friends I know that decided to do this, ended up sacrificing large amounts of time before they got to college because they couldn't support themselves.
Ex: instead of getting to college at 18 they got to college at 22-24...

So by doing this you could also be putting your future on hold for a long time.

Answer 6

As a matter of Destiny, only you may make the decision. No matter the advice you are given, it is your choices that mould your destiny as you live on. The road that seems like the easiest way to happiness is rarely so. Often, one must endure through hard and trying times to achieve happiness from things that one never knew would make them happy in the first place. I have no advice except that you should listen to your heart. Remember that when listening to your heart, that you need to block out distractions like short term goals or else you may end up side-tracked by them. Good luck!

Answer 7

Do what works for YOU! Don't worry about other people's opinions. You know that your job in life is to work towards your highest potential, in whatever way works for you, and living an ethical life (however you choose) is a good idea too. Other than that just LIVE! You're so young yet... compared to an old fart like me. *w*

Answer 8

What's your passion? What is it that you go to bed dreaming of and wake up thinking about, what is it that if you can't do you don't think you could even breath. With me, when I wake up I think about singing, and about my pets, when I go to sleep thats what I think about and dream about... so thats what I am called and put on earth to do that is my destiny.... now answer for yourself.

Answer 9

Personally, I would stay where I was at but I was real close to my mom, still am but I would graduate and then move. You didn't mention your parents. I guess that would make a big difference if they abuse you or something

Answer 10

You appear way too immature to be living away from home. Go back to your family if at all possible. Living together as you are will do nothing to secure your future or your happiness. Finish school honorably. And stop acting like a spoiled child.