how to get over jealousy.?

Question

if i like a girl and she doesnt like me but we r REALLY close friends how do i get over the fact that i like her for more than a friend? i like her alot!

Answer 1

Dude that's a tough one. I've been there and it sucks. Hollywood version: She'll come to her senses and realize what a fabulous catch you are. Reality: She'll probably just want to remain friends. You'll then need to decide if that's something you can do. If you can, than just be friends, if you can't, then you may need to end the friendship. I had to do the latter and I wasn't happy with myself, but it just kept messing with my mind seeing her and thinking she would change her mind. I was wasting mine and also limiting my chances of finding someone who did want to be with me. As the saying goes, there are many fish in the sea, or something like that. It sucks right now but you'll get over it.
Good luck.

Answer 2

It can be hard. They don't advertize this, but jealousy is probably the most powerful human affect in existance. A hard bout of sexual jealousy can destroy a person's whole mind. If you find yourself being overcome by such feelings it's best you remove yourself from an enviroment/individual that makes you feel those things. You can really end up doing some stupid things. Jealousy is not petty, it's perfectly human. But it can also be dangerous.

Answer 3

While no one answer will address every specific situation, I have found that the easiest way to break the cycle of hurt brought on by jealousy is to find a new "object of your affection." If you start to date someone else several things could happen: (1) you could find a new love; (2) you could find someone fun who makes you forget the hurt; and/or (3) you might make your "friend" realize what a catch you are.

The only other thing that works is time, time time.....

Answer 4

This is very tough, I hope you're young, it seems difficult, but moving on happens much easier than young people realize because they find other "interests" so fast. All those guys I swore I needed and loved and obsessed over, I ended up just getting over. Some took longer than others, but as an adult now, those pains have COMPLETELY went away. I swore then, I'd never stop 'loving' or 'wanting' someone, but I did, and mostly because, I'd meet new people to like. I am married now, one guy hurt me in my early 20s that I'm still a bit bitter about, but not painful anymore :)

Answer 5

You didn't say how long you have been really close friends. But like can turn to love over time. After getting to know each other VERY well, it may happen (no guarantee), but it takes perhaps at least 6 months or more. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your question asks how do you get over jealousy. Your example has nothing to do with jealousy. You can't make someone love you if they don't. She can't make her heart feel something it won't. Find yourself a diversion.

Answer 7

You're in an unenviable situation.

I don't think anything will help. As long as you're with her, your obsession with her will grow.

The best thing to do is to get away from her. It will be very difficult. May in the beginning you may allow her to call you up or occasionally, when you're feeling very down. But eventually, you need to get away.

The best thing to do would be to meet up with another girl you fancy.

Answer 8

Sit her down and find the words that would make you cry and sing her your heart so she see your soul. I think you would leave her breathless and puts thoughts on her mind everynight she's go's to bed.

Let her know in words that discrible your emotion. Damn, I remember that feeling all to well and it's wonderful. Play low volume soft music 'without words' when you do tell.

Answer 9

So what exactly are you trying to get over? Jealousy or love?

Answer 10

well .. i wouldnt say this is jealousy but i have had a situation like this before .. just give her space and maybe she will change her mind about you .. you never know only time can tell