I need some guy help!!?

Question

Im 14 ive liked this guy for 3 years now after all the fights and all the tears i finally realized i was just being used and abused, However i still have some feelings for him that are still there but still small how do i get rid of those? How can I move on? He still thinks I like him after i said sorry for everything but how do i get him to realize that i don't and that what he did was wrong. I want him to understand that he cant treat people the way he did to me. Ofcoarse he was sweet and nice at times but the pain was still there from fights. How do i get him to understand im through and i wont allow him to use me? after our last fight he just ignored me most of the time but what do i do to get him to feel the pain I did?

Answer 1

Nothing but time can heal the wounds you have. Just move on with the rest of your life without him in it. Try to avoid talking to him. Just make it clear that you want nothing to do with him. Your 14, you should be enjoying life not fighting with boys =]

Answer 2

QUESTIONS:
are you guys dating?
did he hurt you physically?
did you sleep with him?
do you have the same school?

>looks like your having problem with an immature dude. if you answered yes to most of my questions, you better let go girl.. even if this is some sort of an infatuation towards the guy, They get to pretend they are not dating you and pretend they are not responsible for your feelings! But are actually responsible for the expectations of a "friend" rather than the far expectations of a "boyfriend". some young guys tend to just fool around while they're still young, they feel confident about themselves and want to experience everything. do the same thing, do what you want to do while your still young... there's a lot of guys out there to select with. i think that the best way to backfire him and at the same time letting him go out of your mind.

Answer 3

If he shows no remorse of what he did to you, then you should move on cause there are better guys out there that will treat you how you wanted to be treated. Being verbally abused isn't really that promising, and can or will lead to more violent occassions, which will end up with you wasting your life on a deadbeat. Let it go. Find someone new!

Answer 4

One things guys hate is being ignored or not being centre of attention.. Get friendly with his friends but ignore him.. just say hi to him and nothing else.. dont get into a conversation with him or hold eye contact for longer than a glance.. but really get to know his friends.. not in a romantic way but in a social way.. Soon he will see that he's no longer a god in your eyes and realise what he did wrong.. But dont waste your time on him in the future... Good Luck..

Answer 5

It's hard to say whether you are overreacting because it's not clear exactly what he did to you that was so bad. If it is a criminal act, then please report the crime!

Anyway, to answer your question you need to get some control over your impulses. If you don't like the guy AVOID HIM. If he does get into your head, distract yourself with other thoughts.

Finally, and this is most important, After you break up with someone, you lose all your athority to tell them what they did or are doing wrong. Stop. You need to learn this lesson early it will come up over and over again in your life. It's as true in love as it is in career, once your connection wtih someone is over, you have lost your rights to complain about them and expect them to listen.

Answer 6

Try seeing other people and when he want to see or give you a hard time tell him there is someone else. If you want to punish him you should talk to other people, don't call him or answer any of his phone calls,stop seeing him,and just place your self around a new guy thats better than him, that should do it, but I don't know to many that will talk to 14 year olds.

Answer 7

He doesn't need to know anything from you, those feelings are compulsion from your ego to win this thing. let it go, you don't have to teach him a thing, it's not your place to teach him, that is what life is for. you want to hurt him and make him feel pain. does that make you any better than him especially when you are doing it intentionally and he did it because he is stupid. when he ask you for something and you say no, I am sure he will know you won't let him use you any more, your pride is at work here and will only cause you more grief.

Answer 8

well...you shouldnt try to get him feeling the way that you did. you should tell him how you felt, and what he did to you really did hurt you!! no matter how hard it may be, dont talk to him. if he wants to talk you, then you let him talk to you..make HIM go out of the way to call, email, talk to you! dont you go out of your way for someone that has put you through pain. and when you do talk to him, dont hold anything back, tell him exactly how you feel about him, dont worry about hurting his feelings...he's already hurt yours! let him know that you DID like him, but now you dont see anything in him, all you can do is think of pain when you see or think of him. your the one that deserves better, not him.

good luck with this

Answer 9

omg. i had this before... it wasn't as bad or anything, but i know what you mean. if you haven't tried talking to him.... then that would be good. the only way for you to truly move on would be to realize that he has hurt you. it may be difficult, but it will certainly happen in time. if he makes you feel this way, then he definitely is not worth your time.

Answer 10

stay away from him completely and if you can't then avoid him at all costs! trust me you will get over it and if he uses you and doesnt understand that after you told him what you were feeling, trust me he never will so move on. you don't need this kind of stress at 14.