I was with my boyfriend for almost a year and right up until the day he broke up with me he told me lies about how much he loved me. I cant even tell now if he ever really loved me in the first place and it just feels so bad knowing that I wasted so much of my life on him. I know this sounds cruel but I just want him to feel the pain that Im feeling. Is there anyway to get him to feel the slightest remorse? (without hooking up with anyone else, Im not like that)
2007-01-08 10:35:02 · 25 answers · asked by jamie23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure there is.... Just show the bugger that you're getting on with your life. It'll hurt his ego,. because whether he still loves you or not, some guys like to feel like they have control over a girl's emotions. And even if they won't touch you any more, they still LOOOOVE to know that you're all crippled up inside over them. So show this ***t that you can just as well get on with your life and that he has no power over you... And while you're at it, DO get on. Find someone else, out of love, not revenge, and things will be ok. Good luck.
2007-01-08 10:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by veevintage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say yes there is. All I can tell you is to find someone else and be as happy as you can esp around him, if you see him. Thats what I did with my exboyfriend. A "friend" of mine started dating him, after I got married, it might have been 3 years but old feelings resurface quickly even though I am head over heals in love with my husband, so I just smiled, invited them over for dinner, cooked my heart out, and loved on my husband, sat on his lap, ALOT of kisses, and just made him feel so bad. My husband knew what was going on and he was having fun with it, cause he wanted that guy to know that I was about as happy as I could get. Good Luck.
2007-01-08 18:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by msoutherngirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not look at it as a waste of your time. I feel that we all have lessons in this life to learn. Some of these lessons hurt us but they make us grow more mature as we experience each one of them. He is the one who will some day have to answer for the mistakes he made and if you make him hurt then you would be no better then he is! You are much more valuable then that. Look at this as a learning experience and move on with your life it will make you a better person in the long run.
2007-01-08 18:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ginny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have ask myself the same question, It seems that guys or men can turn you off and pretend they are not hurting. I am going through the same thing but we dated for over two years and lived together, I am not sure if he ever cared about me or if he ever hurt over the breakup. now for me he was with another woman 3 weeks after we broke up, it ha been 10 months So i am not sure how to help or answer your question. All i know now is it is time to put tihs all behind me nd find another man that will love and care for me that will be our healing dear, Not to hurt him but to get on with our life, take care and god bless you.
2007-01-08 18:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Alley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time trying to make him feel the pain that you felt. You must remember that what goes around, comes around. It may not happen today, tomorrow, next week, or next month, but one day, what he did to you, will happen to him. But it's not your job or your place to return that hurt. Just forgive and let it go.
2007-01-08 18:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl20012 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Just take comfort in the fact that karma is a b*i*t*c*h and he will get his. Also, getting yourself in great shape and lookin hot and getting hit on in front of him will at least make him regret being a douche. Just make sure if he does come crawling back, you stand your ground... you are better than a man who lied to you for a year.
2007-01-08 18:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably can't make him feel the same pain you're feeling. I know you're hurting (been there, felt that), and I understand that you just want to know that he knows how much he hurt you.
He probably knows.
For what it's worth, he probably loved you. He may still love you. But sometimes love isn't all it takes.
2007-01-08 18:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't believe me, but in a fair few years you wont remember very much of the bad in the relationship, give it time and allow yourself to heal, but remember if you are happy then (as long as he is as described) he wont be.
2007-01-08 18:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by mookie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No there is not. And you really don't want to either. It would just make you as bad as him. Don't let him or worse, the memories of him continue to screw up your life. The best revenge is living well.
2007-01-08 18:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on and be happy and successful. Seeing you happy will make him see what he has missed out on and that is sweet revenge withour becoming bitter and twisted. Plus, by moving on and being happy and doing your own thing you will improve yourself, be happier and soon forget about him as well.
2007-01-08 18:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Diana K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋