I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years (well actually she broke up with me) She told me that in regards to her life career was more imporant that me. I am very very devistated (hence posting on yahoo answers) What I am asking though is how to get over her? I am new to the area I am living in now and aside from her have few friends here, what I am looking for is any advice and ideas about what I can do to get over her and get back in the game. Thanks. I live in Raleigh NC. Just so you know. thanks.
2007-01-08 10:30:31 · 18 answers · asked by rolandofgileadiscool 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 25 sorry about that.
2007-01-08 10:45:25 · update #1
Well, first things first. You can't rush getting over her or "getting back in the game". You just have to wait until it doesn't feel so bad anymore. Time heals all wounds, right? Believe it or not, my advice is to totally wallow in your misery for a couple of days. Talk about her, cry about her, scream about her, whatever you gotta do. Then get the hell out of the house. Go out and force yourself to have a good time. You may not have very many friends in NC right now but wallowing isn't going to make you any new ones! Do whatever you normally would to pass the time. And if that doesn't work, you could always read the Dark Tower series again. "The man in black fled across the desert and the gunslinger followed........" :) I swear to god, if I ever have a son, I will name him Roland! Good luck and long live Roland!!
2007-01-08 10:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself really busy. That could be hard in a new city - but on one hand, you may not have a lot of friends yet to help keep your mind off things - but on the hand you have a whole new city to explore with different tourist attractions and parks and malls and museums and things to explore. Maybe if you're not in school already take a night class in something that interests you and you can meet people through that. Go to the movies and read a lot - that helped me. In a week or so go out on a friendly date. Even just join an online dating site just to browse around and see what's out there. Above all, just know that you WILL be okay and that you just have to go day by day until time heals you up a bit. Good luck!
2007-01-08 10:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm.. personally, I think it's all in your brain. You let yourself to be in this current state. I don't know about you, but I have a huge ego and take my pride seriously. Imagine me, dumped by a guy and still crying over him, even after a week! It sounds pathetic. It hurts, I know. But think again, what if he finds out that I'm still crying over him? He'll think too highly of himself. Most importantly, it means that he has won the game. Maybe you'll think "hang on, love isn;t a game" Yes it isn't, but in this matter, it involves your pride as a man. If you get dumped, the least you can do is move on. Tell her you'll be PERFECTLY fine without her. Find another girl. And yes, maybe the sex helps. Don't push yourself into a deeper sorrow. The more you think about it, the more you can't get over her. You control your own mind. Not your mind controlling you. Tell yourself, put a stop in it. Well, at least this mindset did help me before.
All the best =)
2007-01-08 10:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by kampung_minyak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 22 years old, but I've been through plenty of heartaches and break ups. My advice to you is to start dating other people. Get involved in some things that you enjoy doing. This will help to take your mind off of your ex-girlfriend. Please DO NOT sit around thinking about her and the reason for the breakup because it will only get you depressed. Think of it this way what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. So now, you are a stronger person and the next relationship you get involved in you will be able to better handle any situation that arises.
2007-01-08 10:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl20012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cared more about her regular life, then I think you are better off without her.
Two years is a quite a long time and if she felt that, then as I said, maybe you were better of without her. I am personally very sorry to hear this and wish it worked out better for you. But I am sure we all have heard that everything happens for a reason.
Don't try to get back in "the game" as soon as possible. Give yourself time to think about it and wonder. It will help you release it all so you do not hold it in and let it haunt you.
Hope it works out.
Bye, dear.
2007-01-08 10:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again u KIDS do not state u r age. I would guess u r about 17-18
Do u realize how many X`s this is going 2 happen in u r life!
It couldn`t of been as good of 2 yrs you state. Since, i don`t know u r age;go 2 places that ur age hangs out, also check the laundry mats;take some clean shirts& wash them over again..lol. Good Luck
2007-01-08 10:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by john g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way i got over it when my boyfriend broke up with me i just forgot about it and got on with my life. Even though hes still my friend we dont hang out as much we just for got about it. And i got a new boyfriend.
2007-01-08 10:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by jonlova_23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur not #1 on her list than u don't want her..........my bf comes before everything and we love each other and sacrifice for each other and if she doesn't wanna do her end of the bargain then u need to get out there .go to some parties .have some real fun and show her that ur doin fine without her and her worries..hope i help ..lyl......
2007-01-08 10:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by emy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
!Its easy just tell yourself that she is a
f u c k e d up b i t c h
and I never needed the a s s hole anyway.
you will be hurt for a while but you will get over it. I promise.
stop thinking about her. she isn't worth it. find other things to do and don't feel sad -- feel glad --glad that the little hoe is gone!
2007-01-08 10:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋