I feel as if I am starting to get attached to someone. Worst of all she will probably leech off of me and make me weak. I feel as if I do not know what to do. I do get along with her and I like her but I feel as if it is just me wanting to be wanted. I am doubting myself and I do not know what I should do. Any suggestions.....
Confused Cool Dude.
2007-01-08 10:18:52 · 8 answers · asked by JR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right. Ummmmmm. How old are you? I dont know if "leech off of me" is the right words...... How would she make you weak? Come on!!!!!!! BE A MAN!!! Suck It up. Being like that isn't gonna get you a girlfriend. So what? She's gonna "leech off" you. Don't let her!!!! Stop being a weenie sitting on the computer trying to get relationship advice!! Do what you think is right. And if it doesnt work out, it doesnt work out.
2007-01-08 10:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Yellow :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont really understand what u are trying to ask, but i know how it feels to feel yourself starting to get attached to someone.. i found myself in the same situation a couple of months ago, and i'd just suggest u talk to her and try and see if there are good vibes.. don't get attached to her without even knowing if she likes you, because that's a waste of your energy. Don't create a relationship that isn't even there. that's the most important thing not to do or else your gonna see her with another guy and be so damn hurt but it's your own fault for getting attached to someone who wasnt even into you
2007-01-08 18:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by hairkair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure about a possible relationship before you get into it, that is a definite sign not to get into it. The things you are thinking about being leached off of and feelings of weakness are signs telling you to not get into this. Also, I have had the feeling of wanting to be wanted too. Honey, I know this one all of too well. For back about 20 years ago when I met my daughter's dad, I had that feeling and all it did was mess me up. I would beg and plead to God to please make him give up the other woman and be a family man with me who bore his child. It never panned out and evetually broke the relationship off. He asked me not to do this and I said to him, " I love you with all of my heart , but I can not raise our daughter to live like this." (Meaning having two partners at the same time and expecting them to be cool with everything about that arrangement. And that was the end of that. He did try to get custody of my daughter later through the county court system. The courts gave him visitation rights for a while and ultimately I kept my daughter. I also learned that his plan to gain custody of my girl was to turn around and hand her over to his sister so she could collect welfare. NO GOOD!
I am sorry if I bored you to death with all this stuff, it was the only way I could get out what I was saying about my experience with my gut feelings and weather it is worth it to go for or forget about this prospective girl you like. I know it can be confusing when it comes to dating. It is not easy and it is not supposed to be easy.
Honey, stay cool, you will do the right thing if you have patience and speak with the good lord above. He knows all, he will help you, just ask and it will be done. Have patience, you will be just fine.
2007-01-08 18:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by sheila h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to be allone & if after yrs of dating you still have not found the 1, you may b getting frustrated.
Don't. She's out there. It dosen't matter how old you are when you meet her as long as you don't let her go when you do find her. If the person that is in your life now is ment 4 u she will def b there in a few yrs. Isen't is better to b patient?
2007-01-08 18:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by castillo5247 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont really know. Can't perform amazing psycoanalysis by reading that. There is only one way to tell, and that is to follow your heart. It may lead you to the girl, and the girl may lead to heartbreak, but then alteast you know you made a mistake. Doing something, making a decision, any decision, is the only way to know, because if you do nothing at all, where will that lead you.
Good luck.
2007-01-08 18:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find something that is your own independent of her. For me it's Surfing (ocean waves) or playing my video games that takes my mind off someone.
2007-01-08 18:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by gotham158 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do sound confused. But when you're in love you'll know it.
2007-01-08 18:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do nothing 2 ponits
2007-01-08 18:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Warren Job 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋