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so me and my ex boyfriend broke up 4 years ago we were both each others first love and me and him have been on and off like sexually (not having sex) but other things and we stopped talking for a year after he got a new girlfriend now we started talking again secretly and now we hung out and we kissed and things and im still in love with him but i cant tell if he still loves me or is just using me .. if someone could PLEASE help me that would be great

2007-01-08 10:17:01 · 28 answers · asked by kC b 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

28 answers

he is using you.

Find an unattached, available guy.

2007-01-08 10:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0 0

must have hurt u when he got the new girlfriend, looks as if the same thing he did to u, he is now doing to her. cheating...if u are having to sneak about and hide from the girlfriend, than he doesn't want her to know. if he loves u enough to be with u now, than he should be willing to be honest with the girlfriend, and tell her he is seeing u, if not than he may just be using u, for whatever, maybe all is not happy in his life with her, so he is thinking of leaving her for u, but hasn't made up his mind yet. personally i wouldn't touch this guy or see him, as he will just keep cheating on people, u may think he has come back cause he loves u, but really it's been four years, and i think it just has to do with the fact he may be having some problems with her. and wants to make sure there is someone there for him when he dumps her, if he dumps her that is.

2007-01-08 10:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

You have created a bond with your ex and it is hard to let go but you must!!! I had feelings for an ex even after I married and only time healed the wound. I kept reminding myself why we broke up and why we weren't right for each other and how much better off I am. Ex's can be hard to get over but you must move on. If he cheated on his current girlfirend with you he will cheat again and you don't want to be in the position where your heart is broken. Good Luck! Keep looking forward not back!

2007-01-08 10:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by weareonvacation 2 · 0 0

just bcuz u "love" someone doesn't mean that they're the right person 4 u. keep it real, u know no matter how many x's u take him back, u guys still won't b happy. u need 2 accept the fact that hes not the person 4 u and let go. ur kids dont need 2 c a revolving door situation. thats not good 4 them. i also think u dont need 2 b worrying about seeing other guys right now. how r u gonna date someone new when ur not completely over the first one? thats not fair 2 u or the guy. it seems 2 me ur the type of person that needs someone in order to feel complete. u really need 2 work on that. u need 2 b happy with urself b4 u can b happy w/anyone else. focus on ur kids right now and in a year or 2 perhaps you'll b ready to start dating again.

2016-05-23 15:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Inge 3 · 0 0

In a way I am going through the same thing. We are safe and he knows it. If we were getting back together I think we would have.
Just make sure you are both enjoying it because you don't want to get hurt. Another thing you are better looking or sexier than the other woman. Maybe she does not want sex.

2007-01-08 10:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by ENCHANTRESS ROSE 2 · 0 0

One way to find out is to communicate with him that you are interested in him on a serious level only and will only see him if he is actually available. Then you must stop talking to him, seeing him, etc. and allow him to make some decisions. If you don't stop, you will continue to be his milk on the side because he doesn't have to choose.

2007-01-08 10:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0 0

He knows you still love him and if he felt the same he would still be with you. He's just using you because he knows he can. Guys sometimes get a kick out of knowing they still got it...yeah it sucks but forget him, he's a loser anyway if he cheated on his gf.

2007-01-08 10:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Surrender 2 · 0 0

Sounds like he's just playing the field.
And he cheated on his girlfriend? How can you respect that and honestly believe he wont do it to you if you ever get back together?
If he cared he'd break it off with her, not keep it quiet and use you for booty calls.

2007-01-08 10:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why would you do that? I know it's hard since he's first love, but I'd tell him to screw off, he cheated on his g/f with you, there's a posibility that if you two ever get back together he may cheat on you, how would you like it?

2007-01-08 10:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

sounds like you need to SMARTEN UP.

You are setting yourself up for another let down with a guy that cheats. He will cheat on you just as he is now doing with his GF.

2007-01-08 10:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If he was in love with you he wouldn't be with her. I had a similar problem with my ex fiance. We broke up, he got married, and still calls me to hook up because he says he "loves me". Don't fall for it. You deserve to be with someone that doesn't have to sneak around to be with you and ignores you for a year.

2007-01-08 10:20:09 · answer #11 · answered by Sbebs 2 · 0 0

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