I am engaged to a man who is very controlling, will not tell me where he works and still is married to his wife with promises that in 6 months he will move to my area to be with me? What do you think?
2007-01-08 10:15:34 · 6 answers · asked by xx x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So far you have 4 separate reasons you should not be with this man, much less marry him. Why would you want to marry a man that is still married?? Why would you want o marry man that won't even tell you where he works, what if there is an emergency how do you get ahold of him or doesn't even live in your area. Finally why in the world would you marry a controlling man, trust me the controlling just gets worse!! Break this off fast!
2007-01-08 10:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by all_304 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear xx x,
I would say that you are not using the brains that God gave you. Do you have a wish to be kicked in the head? You are helping him cheat on the woman he married (this makes him an adulterer and you a fornicator, not nice labels), and it should show you that you have hooked up with a TOTAL loser. He will not only lose her, but he should lose you as well. This type of man is the lowest slime.
Even if his wife is cheating on him, if he were a gentleman, he would divorce her and get free before looking for another emotional commitment...or even just a sexual partner.
Get yourself out of that situation with that over controller and get a better life with someone else. He is a CHEATING NOTHING.
Good luck, kid!!
2007-01-08 18:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG
You aren't engaged you are his piece of Asssssssss on the side.
You are part of him cheatingn on his wife. In his marriage vow he told her he would love, honor, cherish and be faithful to her.
This guy is going back on his marriage vows. What makes you think he will be faithful to you? Even if he left her for you- how could you ever trust him to be faithful to you?
If he cheats with you.......he will probably cheat on you. Do you really want to be in a relationship like that?
I bet you anything that his wife doesn't know that he is leaving her because he isn't leaving her.
The fact that you live in another area is proof that he is hidding the relationship. Do you like being hidden and not have your relationship public?
Break your engagment.......Never ever be with a married man again.
I think you have been used and abused. Get your heart and soul back and dump him.
2007-01-08 18:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're engaged to man who is still married and you don't know where he works? You'd best hope he doesn't move to your area to be with you. You need to be as far away from him as you can get, unless you like being hurt and need a tremendous amount of drama and upset in your life.
2007-01-08 18:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a serious look at your life and ask yourself if you are making good choices. Do you think you respect and care about yourself enough to walk away? Control is like a drug to him and he will do anything he can to maintain it! Walk away now and make good choices that will take you on a better path for your life. I think this one will only lead to destruction and unhappiness. Also, speaking as a very happily married woman....LEAVE A MARRIED MAN ALONE!
2007-01-08 18:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by oldrallychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on! You don't need someone who is married. There are many more men out there. Plus, think about how you would feel if you were his wife. He is having his cake and eating it too.
2007-01-08 18:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by triathlon1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋