Familt problem?

Question

One of family members' daughter has just been kicked out her fathers house. She has no where to go. She wants to know stay at her mom's house but her mother is not sure. The girl who was kicked out is really no good. She has a boyfriend who does drugs and he drinks. Plus she uses drugs and smokes too. On top of all of that she has no job. Her mother knows that if she stays with her, shes going to want her boyfriend to come over so they can get high and use all the drugs they want, and who knows what else

The girls mother has a teenage daughter living with her. She doesn't want that crap around her daughter.

What do you think she should do? Let her move in even though she knows what is going to happen. Or let go find some where else to live?

Sorry about misspelling family. I was kind of in a rush

Answer 1

If the daughter is over 18, the mother is not obligated to let her move back in.
If the mother wants to be kind and help her out, she can let her move back under certain rules:
-the boyfriend is not allowed to visit
-the daughter must give up drugs and go into rehab
-no smoking in the house or in the presence of the impressionable teenager
-the daughter has to start looking for a job

If the daughter isn't willing to commit to these rules and seize the opportunity to clean up her life, then the mother should refuse. The mother should make it clear that if the daughter breaks any of the rules, she gets kicked back to the street, no excuses, no more chances.

If the daughter is under 18, and neither parent is willing to house her, then social services should be called immediately to settle the issue of her custody. If she is over 18, she needs to start taking responsibility for her own life.

Answer 2

The Girl who was kicked out ... well ... there are several issues here ...

HOW OLD is she anyway? IF she is of legal adult age (18 or older), then the mother has NO OBLIGATION to her ... and does NOT have to deal with the behaviors .. she can always tell her that she will be there to listen ... but NO place to stay ... NO money, and unless the Daughter is CLEAN and SOBER (after Re-hab) .. then NO Visiting the home either.

IF she is still a minor .. then the Girl needs to be referred to a hospital and a re-hab program. THAT would be a condition that must be satisfied PRIOR to allowing her into the home ... and given that she is already a danger to herself/others .. it is quite clear that she would be accepted into the program at this time.

I feel sorry for the mother .. and the father. This girl has made MANY poor choices (the boyfriend is the LEAST of the problems ... what is life threatening is the Drugs and the Drinking). I would NOT want to have this in MY HOME either ... especially since one of the problems with a teen like this is that they STEAL from the Home ... the mother's purse, the father's wallet, the things in the home that the Parent(s) purchased, the things that belong to the siblings, etc etc etc) and they are physically (and can be extremely so) Violent ... and that is a physical safety issue to BOTH the mother and the younger sister.

Hard to say what to do .. but in any CASE .. the Girl that got kicked out NEEDS to check herself into REHAB at this time. There is NO excuse for this ... and she needs to take RESPONSIBILITY for her POOR CHOICE!

Answer 3

This young lady has to want to quit and realize she needs help; my sister in law was doing meths for about 4 yrs and my mother in law didn't kick her out,she would go out late at night looking for her at the kick-back place where all the drug users would be ; it was very hard to put her in the car and not let her go out for like two days; before she decided to get cleaned up ,she got pregnant
and had an abortion without telling anyone . She felt very bad she says for doing that,but she was afraid her baby was going to come out sick or something. Now she is going to school,working and has a 4 month old baby; she has been clean for 4years and she still goes to rehab meetings. So, this young lady shouldn't get pregnant and get help ; don't let her come back until she has made a decision

Answer 4

I think the girl needs to get a job and find somewhere else to go, I wouldn't want that baggage in my home around my daughter. She could go to a homeless shelter or call Social Services and they can set her up with a place to live,get her off drugs and get her life straightened out. She needs to learn that not everything is easy and you have to try hard to stand on your own two feet.

Answer 5

so im guessing your a family friend? okay so what you can do is tell the mother to let her move in..then you need to put her in a rehab hospital..show her tough love..tell her that she has two options, one is she can kill herself before her life as even started and go no where or the second option is get her off drugs, show some love and tell her that there are MUCH better things in life than just drugs, and drinking...i hope she gets better and that things get better...OH and get rid of the boyfriend just try everything in your power and the family power to get rid of him...tell him to get a REAL LIFE...best of luck

Answer 6

She should refer her to a drug and alchol rehab and then she will have a place to stay and get clean and sober at the same time.She will thank her later.

Answer 7

NO way-------she either straighten herself up or stay the hell out-----dont need trouble with a younger one around to see what all goes on.