If I call her infront of people and praise her for something good she have done, she will be angry with me after they leave She is very smart teen, but very shy.
2007-01-08 10:11:49 · 23 answers · asked by ILSE 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My 14 year old daughter is the same way, I think it is a teenage thing. They are stuck between youth and adulthood. The teenage years are very tough, trying to figure out who you are, what you want to do with your life etc. TV, magazines, etc. portray images of women that make young girls feel bad about themselves. Like they have to look, or be a certain way. My daughter gets mad at me too if I praise her in front of people. I think it is embarrassing to them for some reason. Mom and dad are just embarrassing, and not cool when they are that age. Just try to remember back when you were her age, and how tough it was for you. I am not saying its like this for all teenagers, but the majority of them I know it is. Maybe just praise her when no one else is around. Talk to her and ask her what would make her feel better about herself. Communication is very important at this age.
2007-01-08 10:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having low self-esteem is the worse thing. Being supportive and loving is one way to help. You don't need to praise her in front of people....but you can do it just to her.....all the time. People don't retain something unless its said a minimum of 3 times.
Is the low esteems about her looks or personality? If its her looks, then take her to get some lip gloss, a new outfit that is flattering. If its her personality..maybe too shy. Then encourage her to join some clubs or join something where she'll meet people...can learn new things...and slowly feel more comfortable in groups.
Good luck
2007-01-08 10:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Pam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her to see what types of things she is interested in. Getting her involved in some social activities like Girl Scouts, sports, music, or acting may help. There are many different clubs that she could join at school. Also, give her lots of praise, in the privacy of your own home. Tell her how beautiful and smart you think she is. If kids at school are the cause, there is probably little that you can do. I am also on my way. My oldest is 10.
2007-01-08 11:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for her to get mad at you, and she probably doesn't even know why she's mad at you when she does it. Try getting her into some kind of activity, like Karate, or dance, voice lessons or a music lesson, or even art lessons. If she's shy, the art might be the best way to go. But really consider karate or another martial art, karate and dance have done wonders for my daughter, and this year she has a teacher that sings and plays the piano and she's teaching the kids to sing and my daughter has gotten much more confident. Most of, be patient with her and spend one-on-one time with her, take her for a manicure/pedicure or new haircut. Take her someplace you know she'd love to go but hasn't been. Good Luck.
2007-01-08 11:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be very shy too and my parents just left me alone. My mom talked to me in private about these speech contests and I tried and after the first year winning second place it boosted my self-esteem which made me wanna talk in front of people more. Now my parents can't get me to shut up. Just leave your daughter and try telling her to tell her thoughts out loud in a mirror or to her family. Trust me I'm 16 and after 2 years I'm fine with who I am and now talk and don't care about what others think about me. Which really helped out my grades, in English and other classes....Hope that helped you!
2007-01-08 10:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will grow out of it because when my daugter was like 11-12-13 and 14 she had really low my daugter was very smart like yours very shy but she lost her self-esteem very bad! The reason was because when she was in 7th grade she didnt make the basketball team so she'd cry and stuff but in 6th grade people used to bully her and she be very embarassed because she's be the only one in the class without a partner so if you want to talk to me about anything you are free to!! But you should take her and her friends to the movies somewere were she'd be very outgoing!
2007-01-10 03:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compliment her on things she is or does. Don't make up stuff or exaggerate though she will see right through that. Help her see what is wonderful about herself, and what she has to offer the world. Let her know how much she means to you and help her get involved in activities to make her feel needed somewhere. These are things I wish my mom had done for me when I was 14. Good luck.
2007-01-08 10:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is such a hard age. When you do that in front of others they might tease her when you aren't around. Just continue to tell her how much you think of her and how much you love her. Make sure she gets or stays involved in school or church activities that she is good at so that others tell her she is special. Also, really listen to her when she talks, so that if something is going on with her friends she knows she has someone to talk to. Just by knowing to ask this question tells me your doing lots of things right.
2007-01-08 10:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by BJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean self-esteem? Hmmmm . . . I think that has to do with the kind of parenting she got. Smart and shy should not be too much of a problem since she will grow out of her shyness. All teen girls are ashamed of their parents in front of other people -- don't take it personally.
2007-01-08 10:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she doesnt like that kind of attention from her mom in public. Leave her alone in public unless she does something wrong. Your probably a good mom(i dont know you) but she is growing. Give her praise with no one around and keep doing it. Kinda like boys not wanting kisses from their moms in front of their friends when they get to that age. LOL.
2007-01-08 10:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Era 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋